The NFL, Domestic Violence, Sexual Assault and "Boys Will be Boys"

The Ray Rice video, and the NFL's first reaction to it is merely the latest disturbing example of the "boys will be boys" attitude that still is so prevalent in our society. It's also the same attitude that has has resulted in college's to take so long to even acknowledge, or address, the issue of sexual assault on campuses.

As only one example, I recall so well a divorce case I had years ago involving a Patriot AllPro. His wife showed up at my house in Stoughton one evening; face swollen and with a scratch on her face from a house key. The next morning we appeared in Stoughton District Court to get a Restraining Order. The judge held the hearing in chambers because of the media at the courthouse. Only after the judge inquired about the Patriots game the next Sunday, did we get the restraining order. Afterwards, the player was swarmed by the adoring public. At the time, Raymond Berry (a kind man) was the coach and I did receive calls from the Patriots front office. However, the calls were more addressed to damage control than concern for the players wife. This was over 25 years ago.

There are far to many examples of this societal problem. How many Jennifer Martels are there that we haven't heard about or college rape victims that have been ignored? And it's not just self important athletes.

It has to stop and it won't stop until we all recognize that "boys will be boys" is not an acceptable answer.

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