On Marriage And Divorce: Living For The Moment!

“Life is short. Get a divorce”

By Greg O’Brien, Codfish Press

life_is_short_413.The windy city is howling over a large billboard that rose up recently in a section of a swank Chicago nightclub district dubbed “the Viagra triangle.” The message, to many pro-family critics, is outright impotent. The ad proclaims: “Life is short. Get a divorce.”

Sponsored by Chicago divorce lawyer, Corri Fetman, who defends it as “light-hearted way to deal with a serious subject,” the billboard features a scantily clad, full-breasted woman on the left, a Chippendale-type, varnished, bare-chested male on the right, and a phone number to call for those interested in breaking the Seventh Commandment. The ad, however, was pulled after many complaints, but only because Fetman didn't have the correct permits.Fetman told ABC7 Chicago news that the billboard was paying huge dividends in publicity, and that she’s planning on an even more racy ad next month. 

How about: “Life is short. Work it out with your spouse!”

Half of all marriages in America end in divorce, and the negative impacts on children are devastating. Research indicates the effects of divorce not only influence a child into adulthood, but affect the next generation of children, as well, according to childhood experts. Children of divorced parents “exhibit more health, behavioral and emotional problems, are involved more frequently in crime and drug abuse, and have higher rates of suicide,” warns Patrick Fagan and Robert Rector, senior research fellows in family and domestic policy studies. Children of divorced parents also “perform more poorly in reading, spelling and math. They are more likely to repeat a grade, and to have higher drop-out rates and lower rates of college graduation.”

Something to think about next time your spouse gets under your skin. The honeymoon was over for most of us years ago, and the real work of partnering has begun, but the fruits of persevering at marriage and sustaining the family are far more rewarding than a wild roll in the hay with a stranger. Fetman’s licentious billboard, which plays off our collective vulnerabilities, is nothing more than a “cheap stunt that encourages recreational sex, sports sex,” Jeffrey Leving, a prominent Chicago lawyer told the New York Times.

No doubt, the curves are always rounder and the biceps more buffed on the other side. And so we often have an inflated image of ourselves that blights our vision. I’m reminded of a talk I had years ago with my dad, the father of ten children. He asked me what type of woman I wanted to marry.

“Dad,” I said, “I want her to be a beautiful, smart, sexy, engaging, even-tempered woman who always thinks I’m the greatest in the world.”

He interrupted me. “What would she want with someone like you?” he asked.

Life is short. Have you hugged your spouse today?

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