There are countless substance abusers who have been mentally and physically abused as children. Some may never have had a hand put on them, but they witnessed the fights and heard the arguments. Being in that atmosphere alone can do damage.
How can they not be hurt or angry from that kind of treatment? The person living with brutal abuse from an alcoholic usually has a high family history with their actions that trickled down from one generation to next. The repeated injuries affect the mind and health. The beatings and rapes stay with the child for the rest of their lives.
Their childhood had been taken away from them. They don’t know what a normal family life is all about. They only remember the fear, confusion and assaults growing up.
This kind of treatment has them searching their whole life trying to understand what happened to them. Many will die from the pain of their past not being able to talk about their distress so they can heal. Some commit suicide instead of dealing with their suffering; other over-dose from a useless death when others wanted to help them.
For those who are battling addiction and reading this article, don’t allow the sick person who mistreated you to keep you forever in recovery from their behavior toward you. There will never be an answer on why you lived this life and others didn’t. It’s not easy to study the mind of the ill.
You have to look at what happened, what you can’t change, what you can and the reality that you may never know why! So where do you go from here?
I say forgive and move on with your life. It’s easy for me to say and hard for you to do. Until you let go and forgive, you stay stuck. Grab onto all the help that’s out there and travel down the road that God planned for you.
Forgiving doesn’t mean the person who hurt you was right. It doesn’t mean you have to stay in touch with them. Forgiving gives you back your freedom. It’s a beginning of recovery. It breathes life back into you.
Two things happen with the person you hate. They either don’t know they upset you and that your life has been turned upside down; or they do, and don’t care. Forgiving is not easy. Let go and put the past in God’s hands. Let Him handle the outcome.
Don’t allow someone to take your peace and happiness away from you. You are the one in control of your own actions. You make the decisions. If you stay in denial, you will be lost. This is your battle and you decide the results.