Feeling alone is such an empty hole, whether you are the alcoholic or someone who loves them.
It's hard as a parent, loving your child, to see they can't find their way out of their habit of addiction, when you can. If only we could climb into their bodies and do the work. Deep down you know they don't like living this way, but fear keeps them from reaching out.
They are too embarrassed by so many falls and letting everyone down, they would rather stay at a distance. They avoid their dearest friends or siblings because they seem to have their life together, while they feel like losers.
The alcohol and drugs make their minds see other things than what we do. We see the inner person. People never lose that, it's just hidden from sight. People loving a substance abuser knows the wonderful personality the alcoholic had, the wit, laughter, hard worker, and loving parent themselves.
We remember them going to work everyday to put food on the table, having a home, a car, a decent job, sitting up reading to their children, loving them, teaching them their homework and spending playful times with them.
They want to reach out to all of the fun times again, but feel stuck. I say, "Take one step a day. Don't overwhelm yourself in frightful moments and lack of faith." You are really not alone. If only you could feel it. You're just too blind to see it.
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