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What are we doing wrong with the alcoholic and drug users?

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I wrote this Narrative Non-Fiction, What is and isn't Working for the Alcoholic and Addict: In Their Own Words, because I wanted honest and truthful answers on why people drink or take drugs. What could I have done differently with Richie and Lori?

So I went directly to the source: the addicted. This book was written by thirty-four individuals from all walks of life from the United States and Canada who were or are actively in a recovery program and wanted to share their habit and actions with their struggle trying to overcome their own addiction. Their main goal is to help others who are fighting with their recovery and sobriety. These are their own stories on how their addictions led to the devastation of losing control of their life, family, friends and the death of other family members from this disease we call Alcoholism. 

Their desire is to lift other substances abusers, especially young people, in learning the reality that it’s not that drinking and taking drugs may, could, or would kill; they will. 
Hopefully, the heartfelt honesty from the participants will help doctors and counselors to use their stories for their own study on what maybe missing in the treatment methods. The personal testaments within What is and isn’t Working for the Alcoholic and Addict are an added research as to how people are affected, and how they suffer from long-term drinking habits, and from living in an active alcoholic family. 

What is and isn’t Working for the Alcoholic and Addict may become a learning process for family members to develop the awareness of what the substance abusers are asking for with their support system and recovery programs in order to overcome their addictions. The written statements are a start for all of us to understand the physically and mentally pain alcoholics and addicts are battling. Let us unite together as a family and society to combat this affliction. 

Purchase here: http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss_1?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=alberta+sequeira

Review by Hank Hayes

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Review on What is and isn't Working for the Alcoholic and Addict

As a senior level law enforcement and military combat trainer, there’s one thing that almost instantly turns students around from making fatal mistakes in training. That is proving to them, beyond any reasonable doubt, that the tactics/methods they have used are not working and will not work. Once the students come to terms with that, you now have students that can self-correct so much more of their actions on their own. 

Awareness Coach and four-time award winning author, Alberta Sequeira, has deeply experienced what doesn’t work up close and personal. She has lost not just her husband, but her daughter as well, to alcohol abuse. If anyone wants to get help and see justice for those suffering with alcohol and addictions, its Ms. Sequeira. In this text she takes a departure from listening to the doctors, counselors in rehabilitation centers and “so called” experts. Instead she gives you raw data straight from the mouths of those who have lived through, are still recovering or have recovered from their alcohol addictions.

One of the reasons Alberta and I connected on this project was the success of the message and truths of my first book on alcoholism and addiction, You've Been Lied To...The UNTOLD truth about mainstream alcohol and addiction treatment programs and the SECRETS on how to eliminate the problem for good, which uncovers the lies we have been told about the mainstream alcohol and addiction treatment and the numerous solutions available to everybody but so few know about. 

After about a decade of being in the mainstream treatment environment and culture myself, it was clear to me that the larger majority of people were not getting better, but in fact getting worse. The solution that is used today by 97% of the treatment culture is a one-size fits all approach and this solution has become very clear to me and other truth seekers in the areas of addiction recovery that it does not work to the degree that everyone thinks it does.

In the testimonies of the alcoholics and drug addict’s messages and solutions in What is and isn't Working for the Alcoholic and Addict, you hear directly from the source. What better way to get an uncensored and uncut version of what has and has not worked for them. 

Even if you don’t have any issues with alcohol or addiction or haven’t known someone with these challenges, in your reading you’ll find that there’s more than one way to skin a cat and that these truths can be applied to many challenging areas in life, not just to addiction.

Alberta’s passion to help others so they don’t go through the same pain she has is very real and these stories can help and provide insights as to a path to success for yourself or others. Jump in with both feet. You’ve got nothing to lose and EVERYTHING to gain. 
See you on the path….

Bio: Hank Hayes is the author of You've Been Lied To… The UNTOLD truth about mainstream alcohol and addiction treatment programs and the SECRETS on how to eliminate the problem for good. He is also the contributing author of The Ultimate Guide to Knife Combat.

Mr. Hayes has written dozen of articles for the Law Enforcement and Military Community and his inventions for the enforcement world have saved thousands of U.S. lives. He is available for performance workshops and power talks on overcoming obstacles, negative habits and other addictions. He can be contacted at [email protected]

 

The New Bedford Book Festival

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The New Bedford Book Festival on March 5th and 6th went well. It’s always great to meet new authors and network. Behind me is a company that supplied soup and sandwiches for us. Lucky seat! Got invited to run a workshop on memoirs in July.

For someone who had no intentions of writing a book, mine are growing. The table is full. Thank you to the wonderful people who came to my table to share their stories with alcohol and drug addiction in their families and buying the books to give the substance abuser a voice. I was honored to have many alcoholics talk to me with their struggles and meeting others who have been in recovery for years.

I appreciated the chance to talk for a half hour in another room to share my story about losing Richie and Lori and having an open conversation with others on what we are all going through trying to help our loved ones.

Tom Cirignano

I want to thank Tom Cirignano for taking this great picture of me unexpectedly with my books. He is an author from Lakeville, Massachusetts who sell his books titled The Constant Outsiderand the fictional 64 Cents. Visit him at www.theconstantoutsider.com.

New Bedford, MA, First Book Festival/Meet Alberta Sequeira

The first NEW BEDFORD BOOK FESTIVAL will take place on Saturday, March 5 and Sunday, March 6 at Groundwork!, 1213 Purchase Street, New Bedford, Massachusetts from 11 a.m. to 4 p.m. each day. 

Over 40 local authors, publishers and book sellers will be reading, selling or discussing their books with you at this free, public event. 

Alberta Sequeira, will be one of the authors. Go to http://www.newbedfordnow.com/meet-our-authors/ and read about the upcoming authors at the event. Each day more will be added until all 40 are posted. Maybe the right genre will be there for you. Give our local authors support!

Alberta H. Sequeira was born in Pocasset, Massachusetts. Her father, Albert L. Gramm, had been a Brigadier General in the Army and one of the commanding officers of the 26th Yankee Division during WWII. She spent her childhood in various towns across the different states traveling. She lives in Rochester, Massachusetts with her husband, Al, and downsizing in February to North Dartmouth.

Ms. Sequeira is a four-time award winning author, a Motivational Speaker, and an Awareness Coach on Alcohol and Drug Abuse for private and public events after the loss of her husband and daughter from North Dighton, Massachusetts . She is the producer, director and co-host to the NBTV-95 Cable TV Station out of New Bedford, Massachusetts. Ms. Sequeira is a weekly writer for the Cape Cod Today blog at (http://www.capecodtoday.com/blogs/Journey)

Her first memoir A Spiritual Renewal:A Journey to Medjugorje is about her relationship with her father and learning too late about his remarkable military life fighting throughout Europe during WWII in the battles of Lorraine, Metz and The Battle of the Bulge. After her father’s death, a spiritual change takes her to Medjugorje in Bosnia. A ten day pilgrimage to this tiny, remote village allowed her to witness four out of six visionaries having apparitions daily with The Blessed Mother. Their first vision was in 1981 and still continuing today.Alberta_H_Sequeira-cover2

Her second memoir, Someone Stop This Merry-Go-Round; An Alcoholic Family in Crisis, is about her young life married to her alcoholic husband, Richard Lopes of North Dighton, Massachusetts and their two daughters who lived behind closed doors in silence with confusion and fear. It’s a roller coaster with Richie’s struggle trying to combat his addiction. Join her on a merry-go-round of her own enabling to only bring him deeper into his addiction. In 1985, Richie died at the VA Hospital in Providence, Rhode Island at 45 years old from cirrhosis of the liver.

The sequel Please, God, Not Two; This Killer Called Alcoholism is the continuation of their lives after Richie’s death, and the story follows her daughter, Lori Cahill, going down the same path as her father. On November 22, 2006, after three rehabilitation stays, Lori died at 39 years old at the Charlton Memorial Hospital in Fall River from the same horrible, worldwide disease. This book contains some of the author’s speaking engagements to alcoholic abusers at halfway homes and substance abuse rehabilitation centers.

What is and isn’t Working for the Alcoholics and Addicts; In Their Own Words is a Narrative Non-Fiction book of testimonies from thirty-four recovering alcoholics and drug addicts from all walks of life from the United States and Canada telling what they believe does and does not work in their recovery programs. Hopefully, these honest testimonies will help others fighting the same battle and heading down this same destructive path and for family members to learn from them how they are suffering physically and mentally from their substance abuse. They want to reach doctors, counselors, family members and society on what they believe is needed for support for them to desire professional help.

Her first fictional is due next year: The Rusty Years. Alberta wants readers to know there is a lighter side to her.

In 2013, Alberta and Al, met with Stephen Meunier, who at the time had been the Policy Advisor to Senator John Kerry, in his office located in Boston, Massachusetts. They presented ways to try to modify the Patient Privacy Act to help alcoholics, drug addicts, the mental ill and their families.

Reader Views of Austin, Texas had awarded A Spiritual Renewal; A Journey to Medjugorje the Reviewers Choice Award 2008 Semi-Finalist. Allbooks Review of Canada had nominated her memoirs Someone Stop This Merry-Go-Round with the “Editor’s Choice Award” and was nominated for the “Dan Poynter’s Global eBook Award 2011.” The sequel, Please, God, Not Two was also nominated for the “Editor’s Choice Award 2010” and appeared in the December 20, 2010 issue of Publishers Weekly.

She is a Continuing Education instructor for two three- hour writer’s workshops titled “Bring Your Manuscript to Publication” and “How to Self-Publish Your Own Book with Create Space. Both are published as handbooks with Amazon in paperback and Kindle.

Alberta is a co-founder to Authors Without Borders,” (www.awb6.com) with three other authors who offer their services with speaking engagements, readings, panel discussions, book signing, poetry slams and workshops at schools, bookstores, businesses, and libraries.

Ms. Sequeira will give a small talk on addiction.

Journey Through Alcohol Abuse: www.albertasequeira.wordpress.com

Email: [email protected]

 

 

 

 

Self-Publishing: Trying to Save $

 

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So many of us try to save money on steps with publishing. Yes, I have also. That is why I have taken my books from Infinity Publishing (2) and self-published them with Create Space.

I have published 4 paperback books and 2 handbooks, all available in Kindle.

I am now working at my first fictional book The Rusty Years. It’s about a 92-year-old woman looking back at her mistakes. After writing 3 memoirs about losing members in my family, especially 2 with alcohol abuse, ( a husband and daughter) I want my followers and readers to see there is a lighter side to me. They were painful books to open up to with the world of mistakes, but hopefully, they will help others.

This time around, I may be tempted to see if an agent would have the interest in looking at the book with its twists and turns with emotion and ending with a woman dying in peace with her past finally solved. What kept her deep in the past that held her from enjoying life to the fullest?

I feel this book has the potential of growing fast with word of mouth with a surprising end. A book that a publisher may want to grab onto themselves.

If my query letters keep coming back, I will again go with Create Space hoping the sales grow to get someone’s attention. People think authors swim in money. If they only knew the struggles we have with promoting and marketing. There are thousands or millions of authors who are talented with their writing and get lost in the dead-end pile of queries landing in the basket.

Was it worth me saving money by self-publishing? I will have to sit back and see it the books become known. I tell myself no more promoting and then an idea hits me and I burst with energy to contact locations to help me again. It’s a ride up and down hills for the author.

I am hoping the book is completed by the end of this year.

Alberta

2016 A New Year for Recovery

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Great Info for the family of the addict, family, and counselors
By MSH58 

 "I have learned a lot from family and friends who are in recovery and this book took it one level deeper. The stories are raw, honest and heartfelt from the people who lived through the pain and came out on the other side. I would recommend this book to family members or friends who want to know how an addict/alcoholic thinks. It's also could be a good way to open a conversation with a loved one who is struggling to come to grips with whether they have a problem. We all want to know the right way to handle things and I think Alberta's book gives us insight that there is no "pat" answer that applies to every addict. Bravo to the folks telling their stories!"

Are you going insane trying to figure out how to help your loved one with drinking or use of drugs? Are you a substance abuser feeling alone and helpless with recovery.

You are both not alone. Read What is and isn't Working for the Alcoholic and Addict: In Their Own Words and hear from thirty-four recovering substance abusers who found their way to being sober or from those on the path of recovery.

What gives them the strength to fight and come out winning? What are they looking for from family members to help them? This is the family book for individuals not knowing how to reach out to the addicted or finding mental and physical help for themselves. It's a private battle 24/7.

After losing her husband, Richard Lopes and her daughter, Lori Cahill, both of North Dighton, Massachusetts, Alberta Sequeira went to the direct source for answers....the addicted themselves.

All her books are in paperback and Kindle and can be purchased at http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss_1?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=alberta+sequeira

December's Apparition with Our Lady in Medjugorje in Bosnia

December 25, 2015

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The apparition began at 2:08 pm and lasted 10 minutes. Afterwards Jakov, one of five other visionaries, transmitted the message from Our Blessed Mother to the people. He has received all ten secrets in September of 1998 and sees Our Lady once a year on Christmas Day. What a present!

Our Lady's Message to the World:

Dear children! All these years that God permits me to be with you are a sign of the immeasurable love which God has for each one of you and a sign of how much God loves you. Little children, how many graces the Most High has given to you and how many graces he desires to give to you. But, little children, your hearts are closed and live in fear, and do not permit Jesus to have His love and His peace overcome your hearts and to begin to reign in your lives. To live without God means to live in darkness and never to come to know the Father's love and His care for each of you. Therefore, little children, today in a special way pray to Jesus that as of today your life may experience a new birth in God and become a light which will radiate from within you, and thus that you may become witnesses of God's presence in the world to every person who lives in darkness. Little children, I love you and daily intercede before the Most High for you. Thank you for having responded to my call.
In Jesus, Mary and Joseph!
Cathy Nolan
Mary TV

How to Spend Christmas!

 

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Christmas means different things to individuals. I hope the first is the great fulness of the birth of Christ. Our Savior who was born of the Virgin Mary to save us and give us hope.

It’s a time to be thankful of the good that has happened to us and finding a reason for the bad times and trying to get through the painful days with a loss. Anytime is agony with death, but Christmas leaves a gap that doesn’t have a way of being filled. Instead of being joyful, we push our loss deep down to hide our true feelings, and force an outside face of enjoyment with being around everyone in our company.

Others enjoy Christmas for the excuse of family members to be together. It’s a sad time when siblings live too far away to join in the laughter and fun in our family.

The bathroom scale starts to hid behind a door dreading the time for a human to step on it’s back after December 26th. I am 3 days from the night before (with family dinner at one home) and 4 days until Christmas with another family dinner, after the candy dishes face me, the chips and dips, the bread treats, or whatever calls me to its location. I have already started to celebrate with every piece of candy in sight. My outfits are getting tighter and the holiday is not here yet. God bless stretched waists slacks!!

After Christmas, we try to get over the shock of our weight gain to face New Years. Another day to stuff our body with unnecessary food and delicious pastries.

One week ago, I jumped (don’t think I can now) with happiness getting onto the doctors scale to be weighed. The smile came across my face seeing I lost about 3 “huge” pounds. I think I have gained them back with maybe another pound or two hugging my hips and stomach. I look in the mirror, which I rarely do now, and wait for the rest of my body to catch up to the one that just passed it.

The older we get, the harder it is to lose the weight. Heart patients and diabetics fight temptation ( I for one) with keeping to a diet for the reason of survival. The routine statement comes from everyone, “You can start a diet after the holidays!” I’m afraid by then, I’ll be too far gone to be saved.

I am thankful that my next doctors appointment and AIC blood test is due in February. I have a month to be miserable by going back to a bluh diet and impress the doctor on how good I had been without eating “too much” through the holidays.

Since we are all busy at this time, I want to wish all of you a very happy and blessed Christmas and a promising New Year of 2016 soon to greet us.

Alberta 

www.albertasequeira.wordpress.com

 

 

 

Losing a Child from Alcoholism

 

Please, God, Not Two        Lori's picture for book (2)

Sequel to Someone Stop This Merry-Go-Round

There can't be a pain worse than losing a child. It doesn't matter how or where. They can be an infant up to adulthood, and the pain can still hit you like nothing else. The shock of being in the category of losing a child is devastating. It always happens to others we think. There is no protective bubble around us with this kind of loss. 

When we lost Lori, I felt my world end. It had been bad enough losing my husband, Richie, but not a second family member. How could I have been so blind? Easy. The addict hides their actions and habit for years before it is even known that there is a problem. 

I blew off her last year in Dighton-Rehoboth High School as just following the crowd and would stop drinking once she graduated. I never related it to a family disease that was very high on her dad's side. Foolish thinking for someone who buried a husband from alcohol abuse. Even family members go into denial like the addict or become huge enablers bringing them deeper into their addiction.

Lori got married, had two beautiful children, Meagan and Joe, and we thought she had it all. Life changes and we found out when she was 37 years old that she had an alcoholic problem. Before admitting herself into the Gosnold Rehab in E. Falmouth, MA, we never knew it. 

The next two years had Lori in and out of the Gosnold twice and once in Butler Hospital in Providence, RI. Her stage of life from drinking had her lose a solid Payroll Manager position, her car had been repossessed, lost her home and her dignity. Our heart broke seeing her go from one place to another or not knowing where she was living. A woman who had it all. A woman who loved life, friends, family and her children. 

Please, God, Not Two follows her life, the hardship of her family and friends who loved her, and watched her go down the wrong path with this heartless demon taking her life at 39 years old at the Charlton Memorial Hospital in Fall River, MA. The same way as her father...alcoholism. Her death opened the raw emotions that I had buried losing Richie. It's not easy going to a gravesite and see your two loved one's names on a tombstone...a father and daughter, gone from such a useless death. 

That is what is happening in this world today with many families.  How do we stop this death rate around the world? How do we wake our children up to the facts that over-drinking, following the crowd or handling their problems with alcohol, drugs or over-dosing with prescription pills, is a deathtrap? 

We need to teach children at a young age, grammar school for a start, to open up when something is bothering them to the point of burying it deep within them and handling it with substance abuse. I believe professionals need to give individual counseling and find out "WHY" they are using. We need to "listen" when our children are trying to hint to us what is going on in their lives that are pulling them into hopelessness and depression. 

 My memoirs are not just about what happened in our lives. Both books, including Someone Stop This Merry-Go-Round, talks about our lives behind closed doors and then follows how I should have handled an event instead of the yelling, fighting and asking them why they are using when they don't know themselves. We don't get a second chance to go back and fix things or bring a person back to us. We have to try to reach others who are suffering from the same. One life. Just one... would make it worth the try.

Give these books as a gift to someone, whether it be a birthday gift, someone in the hospital or rehab, or a family member. They were written to help----not to tell a story. I want people to learn from my mistakes.

Add What is and isn't Working for the Alcoholic and Addict: In Their Own Words written by 34 alcoholic and drug users from the USA and Canada on what they believe they need from all of us to help them. It's a book for doctors, counselors, another addict, family and society. You will learn the deep, real pain the addict is mentally and physically suffering in silence, when they really want to reach out for help.

Purchase all books in paperback or Kindle at http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss_1?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=alberta+sequeira

Losing a Child from Alcoholism

 

Please, God, Not Two        Lori's picture for book (2)

Sequel to Someone Stop This Merry-Go-Round

There can't be a pain worse than losing a child. It doesn't matter how or where. They can be an infant up to adulthood, and the pain can still hit you like nothing else. The shock of being in the category of losing a child is devastating. It always happens to others we think. There is no protective bubble around us with this kind of loss. 

When we lost Lori, I felt my world end. It had been bad enough losing my husband, Richie, but not a second family member. How could I have been so blind? Easy. The addict hides their actions and habit for years before it is even known that there is a problem. 

I blew off her last year in Dighton-Rehoboth High School as just following the crowd and would stop drinking once she graduated. I never related it to a family disease that was very high on her dad's side. Foolish thinking for someone who buried a husband from alcohol abuse. Even family members go into denial like the addict or become huge enablers bringing them deeper into their addiction.

Lori got married, had two beautiful children, Meagan and Joe, and we thought she had it all. Life changes and we found out when she was 37 years old that she had an alcoholic problem. Before admitting herself into the Gosnold Rehab in E. Falmouth, MA, we never knew it. 

The next two years had Lori in and out of the Gosnold twice and once in Butler Hospital in Providence, RI. Her stage of life from drinking had her lose a solid Payroll Manager position, her car had been repossessed, lost her home and her dignity. Our heart broke seeing her go from one place to another or not knowing where she was living. A woman who had it all. A woman who loved life, friends, family and her children. 

Please, God, Not Two follows her life, the hardship of her family and friends who loved her, and watched her go down the wrong path with this heartless demon taking her life at 39 years old at the Charlton Memorial Hospital in Fall River, MA. The same way as her father...alcoholism. Her death opened the raw emotions that I had buried losing Richie. It's not easy going to a gravesite and see your two loved one's names on a tombstone...a father and daughter, gone from such a useless death. 

That is what is happening in this world today with many families.  How do we stop this death rate around the world? How do we wake our children up to the facts that over-drinking, following the crowd or handling their problems with alcohol, drugs or over-dosing with prescription pills, is a deathtrap? 

We need to teach children at a young age, grammar school for a start, to open up when something is bothering them to the point of burying it deep within them and handling it with substance abuse. I believe professionals need to give individual counseling and find out "WHY" they are using. We need to "listen" when our children are trying to hint to us what is going on in their lives that are pulling them into hopelessness and depression. 

 My memoirs are not just about what happened in our lives. Both books, including Someone Stop This Merry-Go-Round, talks about our lives behind closed doors and then follows how I should have handled an event instead of the yelling, fighting and asking them why they are using when they don't know themselves. We don't get a second chance to go back and fix things or bring a person back to us. We have to try to reach others who are suffering from the same. One life. Just one... would make it worth the try.

Give these books as a gift to someone, whether it be a birthday gift, someone in the hospital or rehab, or a family member. They were written to help----not to tell a story. I want people to learn from my mistakes.

Add What is and isn't Working for the Alcoholic and Addict: In Their Own Words written by 34 alcoholic and drug users from the USA and Canada on what they believe they need from all of us to help them. It's a book for doctors, counselors, another addict, family and society. You will learn the deep, real pain the addict is mentally and physically suffering in silence, when they really want to reach out for help.

Purchase all books in paperback or Kindle at http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss_1?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=alberta+sequeira

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