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Do you have someone suffering from substance abuse and can't stop? Are you going crazy trying every action to help them? Did you come to the conclusion that the screaming, yelling, fighting, threats, grounding, and taking the keys off them are not working? Do you find yourself 24/7 with just thinking with worry with where they are, what time they are coming home, who are they with, are they drugged-out laying unnoticed in some back alley? Have you stopped smiling, enjoying life, are you depressed, losing weight, or developed lost of happiness? 

The questions we all ask could take up 50 pages. Until you come to the understanding that "they" have to want the help and go into rehab on their own, nothing is going to change. As parents, mates, friends, or siblings, all we can do is love and support them. 

I am asked numerous times, "How do I know it is a problem?" The answer......"When it causes problems. Has the once content family gone to fighting, confusion, fear or abuse? Are they missing school, work, are the bills not being paid, money missing, do you find the family events have stopped, or friends are not coming over anymore? Does it all revolve around the drinking? There is your answer. First step...AS SOON AS YOU SEE these problems, get professional help, even if you have to go alone. 

Someone has to get off the merry-go-round and make changes or the cycle of problems stay the same through years, until innocently, our enabling brings them deeper into their addiction, we have breakdowns, blackouts cause violence, and every member of the family falls apart mentally and physically along with the substance abuser. 

You love them? Develop "Tough Love!" Even if it kills you. Feeling sorry for them, wondering where they will go if you kick them out or if they will survive, makes you keep them from being responsible for their actions.

After losing my husband, Richie Lopes and my daughter, Lori Cahill, I wanted to know, "What Did I Do Wrong? What Could I Have Done Better? How Can We Help These Poor Souls Who Are Killing Themselves?" Yes, more questions. 

I had to have answers. I give speaking engagements to the patients behind closed doors and to family members and had the same unsettled feelings that are asked of me. Finally, I said, "I have to go directly to the on person who knows.......the alcoholic and drug user themselves!" 

That is why I collected over 34 individual stories from substance abusers from all walks of life from Canada and the United States. I threw over 23 questions at them wanting nothing but the absolute true to help others, whether it was the addicted, family members, doctors or counselors. This worldwide problem is not being solved or getting answers. Instead, the death rate is climbing every day, never mind months or years! 

If you want to hear the sad torments from the addicted with their feelings of pain suffering from this disease, then read What is and isn't Working for the Alcoholic and Addict: In Their Own Words, in paperback or Kindle. Learn and listen to what they are asking for to help them desire the want for recovery. 

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All my books are listed under Kindle and I am offering them to be available to you free in Kindle for the next 90 days so you can get a feel of my writing for both the alcoholic and family member. All my books are available at http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss_1?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=alberta+sequeira. Or key in my name Alberta Sequeira and every paperback, Kindle and handbook is available to purchase. 

My number one book starts in the beginning with me meeting my husband, Richie, not realizing his problem right from the beginning in Someone Stop This Merry-Go-Round. The painful sequel is after losing Lori in Please, God, Not Two. The conclusion to every family member, including the addicted, being affected is in What is and isn't Working for the Alcoholic and Addict.  

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What are we doing wrong with the alcoholic and drug users?

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I wrote this Narrative Non-Fiction, What is and isn't Working for the Alcoholic and Addict: In Their Own Words, because I wanted honest and truthful answers on why people drink or take drugs. What could I have done differently with Richie and Lori?

So I went directly to the source: the addicted. This book was written by thirty-four individuals from all walks of life from the United States and Canada who were or are actively in a recovery program and wanted to share their habit and actions with their struggle trying to overcome their own addiction. Their main goal is to help others who are fighting with their recovery and sobriety. These are their own stories on how their addictions led to the devastation of losing control of their life, family, friends and the death of other family members from this disease we call Alcoholism. 

Their desire is to lift other substances abusers, especially young people, in learning the reality that it’s not that drinking and taking drugs may, could, or would kill; they will. 
Hopefully, the heartfelt honesty from the participants will help doctors and counselors to use their stories for their own study on what maybe missing in the treatment methods. The personal testaments within What is and isn’t Working for the Alcoholic and Addict are an added research as to how people are affected, and how they suffer from long-term drinking habits, and from living in an active alcoholic family. 

What is and isn’t Working for the Alcoholic and Addict may become a learning process for family members to develop the awareness of what the substance abusers are asking for with their support system and recovery programs in order to overcome their addictions. The written statements are a start for all of us to understand the physically and mentally pain alcoholics and addicts are battling. Let us unite together as a family and society to combat this affliction. 

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Review by Hank Hayes

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Review on What is and isn't Working for the Alcoholic and Addict

As a senior level law enforcement and military combat trainer, there’s one thing that almost instantly turns students around from making fatal mistakes in training. That is proving to them, beyond any reasonable doubt, that the tactics/methods they have used are not working and will not work. Once the students come to terms with that, you now have students that can self-correct so much more of their actions on their own. 

Awareness Coach and four-time award winning author, Alberta Sequeira, has deeply experienced what doesn’t work up close and personal. She has lost not just her husband, but her daughter as well, to alcohol abuse. If anyone wants to get help and see justice for those suffering with alcohol and addictions, its Ms. Sequeira. In this text she takes a departure from listening to the doctors, counselors in rehabilitation centers and “so called” experts. Instead she gives you raw data straight from the mouths of those who have lived through, are still recovering or have recovered from their alcohol addictions.

One of the reasons Alberta and I connected on this project was the success of the message and truths of my first book on alcoholism and addiction, You've Been Lied To...The UNTOLD truth about mainstream alcohol and addiction treatment programs and the SECRETS on how to eliminate the problem for good, which uncovers the lies we have been told about the mainstream alcohol and addiction treatment and the numerous solutions available to everybody but so few know about. 

After about a decade of being in the mainstream treatment environment and culture myself, it was clear to me that the larger majority of people were not getting better, but in fact getting worse. The solution that is used today by 97% of the treatment culture is a one-size fits all approach and this solution has become very clear to me and other truth seekers in the areas of addiction recovery that it does not work to the degree that everyone thinks it does.

In the testimonies of the alcoholics and drug addict’s messages and solutions in What is and isn't Working for the Alcoholic and Addict, you hear directly from the source. What better way to get an uncensored and uncut version of what has and has not worked for them. 

Even if you don’t have any issues with alcohol or addiction or haven’t known someone with these challenges, in your reading you’ll find that there’s more than one way to skin a cat and that these truths can be applied to many challenging areas in life, not just to addiction.

Alberta’s passion to help others so they don’t go through the same pain she has is very real and these stories can help and provide insights as to a path to success for yourself or others. Jump in with both feet. You’ve got nothing to lose and EVERYTHING to gain. 
See you on the path….

Bio: Hank Hayes is the author of You've Been Lied To… The UNTOLD truth about mainstream alcohol and addiction treatment programs and the SECRETS on how to eliminate the problem for good. He is also the contributing author of The Ultimate Guide to Knife Combat.

Mr. Hayes has written dozen of articles for the Law Enforcement and Military Community and his inventions for the enforcement world have saved thousands of U.S. lives. He is available for performance workshops and power talks on overcoming obstacles, negative habits and other addictions. He can be contacted at [email protected]

 

The New Bedford Book Festival

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The New Bedford Book Festival on March 5th and 6th went well. It’s always great to meet new authors and network. Behind me is a company that supplied soup and sandwiches for us. Lucky seat! Got invited to run a workshop on memoirs in July.

For someone who had no intentions of writing a book, mine are growing. The table is full. Thank you to the wonderful people who came to my table to share their stories with alcohol and drug addiction in their families and buying the books to give the substance abuser a voice. I was honored to have many alcoholics talk to me with their struggles and meeting others who have been in recovery for years.

I appreciated the chance to talk for a half hour in another room to share my story about losing Richie and Lori and having an open conversation with others on what we are all going through trying to help our loved ones.

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I want to thank Tom Cirignano for taking this great picture of me unexpectedly with my books. He is an author from Lakeville, Massachusetts who sell his books titled The Constant Outsiderand the fictional 64 Cents. Visit him at www.theconstantoutsider.com.

New Bedford, MA, First Book Festival/Meet Alberta Sequeira

The first NEW BEDFORD BOOK FESTIVAL will take place on Saturday, March 5 and Sunday, March 6 at Groundwork!, 1213 Purchase Street, New Bedford, Massachusetts from 11 a.m. to 4 p.m. each day. 

Over 40 local authors, publishers and book sellers will be reading, selling or discussing their books with you at this free, public event. 

Alberta Sequeira, will be one of the authors. Go to http://www.newbedfordnow.com/meet-our-authors/ and read about the upcoming authors at the event. Each day more will be added until all 40 are posted. Maybe the right genre will be there for you. Give our local authors support!

Alberta H. Sequeira was born in Pocasset, Massachusetts. Her father, Albert L. Gramm, had been a Brigadier General in the Army and one of the commanding officers of the 26th Yankee Division during WWII. She spent her childhood in various towns across the different states traveling. She lives in Rochester, Massachusetts with her husband, Al, and downsizing in February to North Dartmouth.

Ms. Sequeira is a four-time award winning author, a Motivational Speaker, and an Awareness Coach on Alcohol and Drug Abuse for private and public events after the loss of her husband and daughter from North Dighton, Massachusetts . She is the producer, director and co-host to the NBTV-95 Cable TV Station out of New Bedford, Massachusetts. Ms. Sequeira is a weekly writer for the Cape Cod Today blog at (http://www.capecodtoday.com/blogs/Journey)

Her first memoir A Spiritual Renewal:A Journey to Medjugorje is about her relationship with her father and learning too late about his remarkable military life fighting throughout Europe during WWII in the battles of Lorraine, Metz and The Battle of the Bulge. After her father’s death, a spiritual change takes her to Medjugorje in Bosnia. A ten day pilgrimage to this tiny, remote village allowed her to witness four out of six visionaries having apparitions daily with The Blessed Mother. Their first vision was in 1981 and still continuing today.Alberta_H_Sequeira-cover2

Her second memoir, Someone Stop This Merry-Go-Round; An Alcoholic Family in Crisis, is about her young life married to her alcoholic husband, Richard Lopes of North Dighton, Massachusetts and their two daughters who lived behind closed doors in silence with confusion and fear. It’s a roller coaster with Richie’s struggle trying to combat his addiction. Join her on a merry-go-round of her own enabling to only bring him deeper into his addiction. In 1985, Richie died at the VA Hospital in Providence, Rhode Island at 45 years old from cirrhosis of the liver.

The sequel Please, God, Not Two; This Killer Called Alcoholism is the continuation of their lives after Richie’s death, and the story follows her daughter, Lori Cahill, going down the same path as her father. On November 22, 2006, after three rehabilitation stays, Lori died at 39 years old at the Charlton Memorial Hospital in Fall River from the same horrible, worldwide disease. This book contains some of the author’s speaking engagements to alcoholic abusers at halfway homes and substance abuse rehabilitation centers.

What is and isn’t Working for the Alcoholics and Addicts; In Their Own Words is a Narrative Non-Fiction book of testimonies from thirty-four recovering alcoholics and drug addicts from all walks of life from the United States and Canada telling what they believe does and does not work in their recovery programs. Hopefully, these honest testimonies will help others fighting the same battle and heading down this same destructive path and for family members to learn from them how they are suffering physically and mentally from their substance abuse. They want to reach doctors, counselors, family members and society on what they believe is needed for support for them to desire professional help.

Her first fictional is due next year: The Rusty Years. Alberta wants readers to know there is a lighter side to her.

In 2013, Alberta and Al, met with Stephen Meunier, who at the time had been the Policy Advisor to Senator John Kerry, in his office located in Boston, Massachusetts. They presented ways to try to modify the Patient Privacy Act to help alcoholics, drug addicts, the mental ill and their families.

Reader Views of Austin, Texas had awarded A Spiritual Renewal; A Journey to Medjugorje the Reviewers Choice Award 2008 Semi-Finalist. Allbooks Review of Canada had nominated her memoirs Someone Stop This Merry-Go-Round with the “Editor’s Choice Award” and was nominated for the “Dan Poynter’s Global eBook Award 2011.” The sequel, Please, God, Not Two was also nominated for the “Editor’s Choice Award 2010” and appeared in the December 20, 2010 issue of Publishers Weekly.

She is a Continuing Education instructor for two three- hour writer’s workshops titled “Bring Your Manuscript to Publication” and “How to Self-Publish Your Own Book with Create Space. Both are published as handbooks with Amazon in paperback and Kindle.

Alberta is a co-founder to Authors Without Borders,” (www.awb6.com) with three other authors who offer their services with speaking engagements, readings, panel discussions, book signing, poetry slams and workshops at schools, bookstores, businesses, and libraries.

Ms. Sequeira will give a small talk on addiction.

Journey Through Alcohol Abuse: www.albertasequeira.wordpress.com

Email: [email protected]

 

 

 

 

Self-Publishing: Trying to Save $

 

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So many of us try to save money on steps with publishing. Yes, I have also. That is why I have taken my books from Infinity Publishing (2) and self-published them with Create Space.

I have published 4 paperback books and 2 handbooks, all available in Kindle.

I am now working at my first fictional book The Rusty Years. It’s about a 92-year-old woman looking back at her mistakes. After writing 3 memoirs about losing members in my family, especially 2 with alcohol abuse, ( a husband and daughter) I want my followers and readers to see there is a lighter side to me. They were painful books to open up to with the world of mistakes, but hopefully, they will help others.

This time around, I may be tempted to see if an agent would have the interest in looking at the book with its twists and turns with emotion and ending with a woman dying in peace with her past finally solved. What kept her deep in the past that held her from enjoying life to the fullest?

I feel this book has the potential of growing fast with word of mouth with a surprising end. A book that a publisher may want to grab onto themselves.

If my query letters keep coming back, I will again go with Create Space hoping the sales grow to get someone’s attention. People think authors swim in money. If they only knew the struggles we have with promoting and marketing. There are thousands or millions of authors who are talented with their writing and get lost in the dead-end pile of queries landing in the basket.

Was it worth me saving money by self-publishing? I will have to sit back and see it the books become known. I tell myself no more promoting and then an idea hits me and I burst with energy to contact locations to help me again. It’s a ride up and down hills for the author.

I am hoping the book is completed by the end of this year.

Alberta

2016 A New Year for Recovery

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Great Info for the family of the addict, family, and counselors
By MSH58 

 "I have learned a lot from family and friends who are in recovery and this book took it one level deeper. The stories are raw, honest and heartfelt from the people who lived through the pain and came out on the other side. I would recommend this book to family members or friends who want to know how an addict/alcoholic thinks. It's also could be a good way to open a conversation with a loved one who is struggling to come to grips with whether they have a problem. We all want to know the right way to handle things and I think Alberta's book gives us insight that there is no "pat" answer that applies to every addict. Bravo to the folks telling their stories!"

Are you going insane trying to figure out how to help your loved one with drinking or use of drugs? Are you a substance abuser feeling alone and helpless with recovery.

You are both not alone. Read What is and isn't Working for the Alcoholic and Addict: In Their Own Words and hear from thirty-four recovering substance abusers who found their way to being sober or from those on the path of recovery.

What gives them the strength to fight and come out winning? What are they looking for from family members to help them? This is the family book for individuals not knowing how to reach out to the addicted or finding mental and physical help for themselves. It's a private battle 24/7.

After losing her husband, Richard Lopes and her daughter, Lori Cahill, both of North Dighton, Massachusetts, Alberta Sequeira went to the direct source for answers....the addicted themselves.

All her books are in paperback and Kindle and can be purchased at http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss_1?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=alberta+sequeira

December's Apparition with Our Lady in Medjugorje in Bosnia

December 25, 2015

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The apparition began at 2:08 pm and lasted 10 minutes. Afterwards Jakov, one of five other visionaries, transmitted the message from Our Blessed Mother to the people. He has received all ten secrets in September of 1998 and sees Our Lady once a year on Christmas Day. What a present!

Our Lady's Message to the World:

Dear children! All these years that God permits me to be with you are a sign of the immeasurable love which God has for each one of you and a sign of how much God loves you. Little children, how many graces the Most High has given to you and how many graces he desires to give to you. But, little children, your hearts are closed and live in fear, and do not permit Jesus to have His love and His peace overcome your hearts and to begin to reign in your lives. To live without God means to live in darkness and never to come to know the Father's love and His care for each of you. Therefore, little children, today in a special way pray to Jesus that as of today your life may experience a new birth in God and become a light which will radiate from within you, and thus that you may become witnesses of God's presence in the world to every person who lives in darkness. Little children, I love you and daily intercede before the Most High for you. Thank you for having responded to my call.
In Jesus, Mary and Joseph!
Cathy Nolan
Mary TV

How to Spend Christmas!

 

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Christmas means different things to individuals. I hope the first is the great fulness of the birth of Christ. Our Savior who was born of the Virgin Mary to save us and give us hope.

It’s a time to be thankful of the good that has happened to us and finding a reason for the bad times and trying to get through the painful days with a loss. Anytime is agony with death, but Christmas leaves a gap that doesn’t have a way of being filled. Instead of being joyful, we push our loss deep down to hide our true feelings, and force an outside face of enjoyment with being around everyone in our company.

Others enjoy Christmas for the excuse of family members to be together. It’s a sad time when siblings live too far away to join in the laughter and fun in our family.

The bathroom scale starts to hid behind a door dreading the time for a human to step on it’s back after December 26th. I am 3 days from the night before (with family dinner at one home) and 4 days until Christmas with another family dinner, after the candy dishes face me, the chips and dips, the bread treats, or whatever calls me to its location. I have already started to celebrate with every piece of candy in sight. My outfits are getting tighter and the holiday is not here yet. God bless stretched waists slacks!!

After Christmas, we try to get over the shock of our weight gain to face New Years. Another day to stuff our body with unnecessary food and delicious pastries.

One week ago, I jumped (don’t think I can now) with happiness getting onto the doctors scale to be weighed. The smile came across my face seeing I lost about 3 “huge” pounds. I think I have gained them back with maybe another pound or two hugging my hips and stomach. I look in the mirror, which I rarely do now, and wait for the rest of my body to catch up to the one that just passed it.

The older we get, the harder it is to lose the weight. Heart patients and diabetics fight temptation ( I for one) with keeping to a diet for the reason of survival. The routine statement comes from everyone, “You can start a diet after the holidays!” I’m afraid by then, I’ll be too far gone to be saved.

I am thankful that my next doctors appointment and AIC blood test is due in February. I have a month to be miserable by going back to a bluh diet and impress the doctor on how good I had been without eating “too much” through the holidays.

Since we are all busy at this time, I want to wish all of you a very happy and blessed Christmas and a promising New Year of 2016 soon to greet us.

Alberta 

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