It’s not important to know his name or where he lives. There are too many fighting this disease, not just in your neighborhood or family, but worldwide; young, old, white, black, rich, poor, famous and an average person with no fame, married or single.
He had just gotten back with his ex-wife to start life over with their two children. She came home and found he had hung himself. Where do I find the correct words to explain the pain deep within families who have lost loved ones to this cruel and heartless demon? Only the ones who have lived through the fear, confusion, breakdowns, and abuse, know what I am talking about with this kind of tragedy. You can feel sad and sorry for families, but until, you walk in our shoes, you will not share in our emotions and stories.
This poor man who had been fighting to get his life back to normal, must have felt hopeless, worthless, and gave up on ever living a life without a struggle with addiction. The news brought me right back to losing Richie and Lori to their addiction.
They didn’t commit suicide like him, but everyone seems to have a different reason for turning to alcohol, drugs, or prescription pills to handle their problems. No one wants to come out of the closet and say, “I need help.” No one wants to bring up the past with some tragedy that happened in their life to only reopen it again with the pain, not knowing what did or didn’t happen to their young memories.
There are many catastrophes that happen to an alcoholic or drug user that maybe the parents, siblings, or friends can’t understand why the addicted can’t “get over” something in the past that happened to them and get on with their life without using.
To many, a death of a parent or close friend, being forced into an abortion, being beaten by a child, listening to parents fight, seeing a parent or someone close to you coming home in blackouts causing the fear, confusion and violence in the family behind closed doors can be devastating to the child who can’t defend themselves or find security within the family. They grow up with no feeling of love.
Remember, how a child is treated in life, especially their toddler years, young child or teenage years, molds them into what and who they become later in life. Not talking about the actions with substance abusers, only makes the addicted turn to the same treatment to their family members and the cycle continues for years throughout the generations.
Richie and Lori died of cirrhosis of the liver. That is a horrible way to die. Richie and Lori had IV’s in both arms, swollen stomachs like pregnant women, their skin and whites to their eyes had turned yellow and their organs slowly shut down. Richie went into a coma, his last 3 weeks in the VA Hospital in Rhode Island and died, and Lori’s doctors from Charlton Memorial in Fall River, Massachusetts did a procedure twice to tie tiny elastic bands around her veins in her esophagus. She also lived three weeks, hemorrhaged from her rectum and went into a coma and had to go on life-support. Two days later, we had to say goodbye and let her go home to God. I heard Lori take her first cry at birth and her last breath on this earth.
The hardest decision in this world is to let a loved one die by taking them off a machine. You always live in fear that if you wait a little longer, they may come out of the coma. As a parent, I wished God had taken Lori the three weeks earlier than to have lived on hope within the three weeks that she would recover, instead of shutting a machine off to watch her heart rate slow down to a stop. It makes you feel like you ended her life. This is alcoholism.
The smartest remark I heard from anyone was from Dr. Phil on his show to an alcoholic and drug user he was sending off to a location for help. I had written to him three times praying for him to help Lori, but I”m sure he is so overloaded with letters and emails that some of us get lost in the pile.
He remarked to the woman, “You realize you’re not going into rehabilitation for a day, week or a month. It’s until! There is the answer! Until you are dried-out, can make healthy decisions with your life, and face the deep-rooted problems that are eating away at you, then you have a chance for survival.
Who and what keeps the addicted active? I saw on television, a football player (yes, I forgot his name) who had been an alcoholic and addict and recovered. His desire was to help young kids. He said a remark to them that had me stop in my tracks? “Show me your friends, and I’ll show you your future!” Think of it. When they get out of rehab, they run to the same friends doing the same abuse, at the same location. They meet with the same drug dealers.
Years ago, our kids, even us parents, were street smart. Today, we are not fact smart. Our education has to start at the grammar school level. Our children are not as innocent to things happening in their neighborhood as you think. In my book What is and isn’t Working for the Alcoholic and Drug Addict, two contributors admitted to trying their first drink at five years old and the other at seven.
This is why I believe we need a daily class on substance abuse with grammar age children. By that age, our sons and daughters are mixing in with others who are looking for ways to get their thrills and they look up to them, instead of having the education that these kids have no future if they continue and face death if they don’t stop. We have to show our children the facts about the high death-rate with alcohol and drug abuse along with stopping doctors who refill pain pills without even taken a second glance at what might be going on with the person. I blame them with the same actions that families do…doctors enable them. Filling prescription drugs over and over, makes them as responsible with their death as the pill they are passing out to the addicted.
Health insurance companies have to change with today’s life with addiction and pay for long term recovery programs. They need to face the reality that substance abusers need anywhere from 6 months to a year in a professional environment, instead of the useless stay of ten days, without coming out until their time is up and advance outside with more professional for another six months. In my past life watching Richie and Lori, I came to the conclusion, it’s not counselors they needed but psychiatrist.What works for one, may not work for another. Professionals need to know the ones who had serious problems as children and realize that a counselor is not going to do the recovery for them.
Addicts have to take their own responsibility with the years of using that they have to get real with the fact, you can’t get dry and then return to the same friends who use, the same corner to get those drug. You have to have no doubt in your minds that this continued action is going to kill you. Not maybe, but when.
Start with today’s grammar school children and open up about alcohol abuse and drug use. Do we need to put fear into them? In my opinion, YES. It can save their lives.
This is the first step toward recovery—admitting you have a problem…and wanting professional help!
How many times have you said, "This is the last drink, I will stop tomorrow, I can stop anytime, I hate myself for drinking again, I keep disappointing my family, I want help and am scared to go for help." Many excuses. You start today by calling a substance abuse rehabilitation or ask your doctor to get you into a location. Go with an open heart and listen. Don't argue or disagree. Get the chip off your shoulder that everyone is against you. You drink because of stress, your family demands, money problems, there is confusion in the house. You would be surprised in recovery finding out all those problems stem from your drinking.
Do you find you look for fights so you can walk out of the house and have an excuse to go to that bar? Isn't that why you start the fight? Do you find any excuse to start the fighting?
If you truly want help, you have to get honest with yourself. Don't try proving it to others. Prove it to you. The first step is scary, but thinking about it makes it that way. Once you take the step, it begins your first day of recovery.
Open up with your pain and past hurts. If you don't, the program will not work. Something deep within you is making you depend on drinking and drugs. Don't you find instead of dealing with the problems, you are hiding behind them. There is no shame in whatever happened to you. Hold your head up high. The shame is if you walk away from your help and continue on the road of death, instead of fighting the demon trying to pull you to the cemetery.
Yes, this disease will kill. The percentage is high. You know about the deathrate, hear it on television, read it in the newspaper and still say, "It will not happen to me?" Why not? You are the only one making it happen. No one is killing you, but you. Family can love and support you, but you have to take that step on your own to recover. You took the path of destruction, now you have to go back and take the other one in the fork.
One Day at a Time. Isn't that what they say? They do because it makes sense. You fall, that's okay. Get up again. Fight, fight and fight more. Want recovery more than life itself. Pick up that phone and take the first step. Realize that doctors and counselors are there because they want to help. Most have been right where you are now. That's why they understand your pain. If you fight the program, you will return to the streets, with your drinking and drug friends, and the drug dealers. They will all own your soul.
New Addiction Bill Passed in Maine—What Does It Mean?
I would like to voice my opinion about this new January Addiction Bill passed in Maine. I am not a professional who had been trained on the topic or a counselor. I am an ordinary wife and mother who lost a husband and daughter to their alcohol abuse. From these losses, I took my pain and wanted to reach out to others—maybe save one person! I became a Motivational Speaker and four-time award winning author on three books about living with and losing two loved ones from their alcohol addiction. There could have been a high chance of drugs being involved.
Don’t over-look a family member’s opinion or message because they have had no degree on the subject. Who knows the pain watching a loved one slowly killing themselves and not being able to do anything to stop the downward speed of their dying from addiction, than someone who has lived through the illness?
First of all, I have always had this uneasiness with any organization getting money to help the sick and then the public hears that a quarter of the money had been used for the cause while the other three-quarters can’t be accounted for from the people collecting the funds. Funds that were sent from honest, suffering family members, who most likely, lost a loved-one from their alcohol or drug addiction, praying their contribution will help another person live by finding new and healthy ways to bring the addicted into a recovery program leading to their sobriety. We want to feel with our donations that our loved one’s death will come to have a meaning by helping others. With this money, we can learn new ways of doing so, not only from the professionals, but people within the family.
Here is an example: “Worst Charity for Veterans Run by VA Employee.” The charity brought in $29 Million in donations from Americans from 2010-2014. It was discovered that less than 2 percent was actually spent for veterans and their causes. No one can explain where the rest had been sent to instead of the program. Money donated for 911 victims and their families had the same results and millions being sent overseas during wartime to help with the ammunition or equipment needed for our soldiers, claim that no one knows where a high percent went to while the needed money had disappeared. If the State of Maine is going to start this program, for the sake of the lives that could be saved, please, don’t follow this path.
My first comment is finding a way to give a 100% guarantee that 100% of the funds will go directly for the alcoholic and drug users. If not, the persons in charge, who can’t account for the missing money, should be liable to add that loss to the program.
Lets talk about the treatment programs. From my experiences with them, there is no foundation. My daughter, Lori, had three rehabilitation stays; once in Butler Hospital in Providence, Rhode Island and twice at the Gosnold Rehabilitation Center in Falmouth, Massachusetts. They took the alcoholic and drug users who had been drinking since teenagers or younger, and put them in the detox centers, and if money was there, a huge ten-day program was next with counseling. Once that was completed, if they stayed, they were let out to go right back to the same location, friends doing the same drinking and drugs, and right back to the drug dealer.
We have to treat the addicted the same as someone who has cancer, being in an accident causing someone to be paralyze, depression or suicidal victims. They need heavy rehabilitation to heal. We don’t heal our loved ones by putting them back out in the street for them to return in a month with the routine of returning, returning and returning. You are putting a bandage on their cut. Insurance companies are in control of a person’s stay, and patients are just a number without them knowing their condition or needs. Addicted patients need a good 6-9 month program, without being release, until they can get the alcohol and drugs out of their system. Until they can do that, their bodies and minds can’t make any healthy decisions. Lori signed herself into a three month program after two years because the doctor said her liver, kidneys and mental state were ready to shut down.
Within two weeks, they gave her the choice to finish her time or go into a halfway home that had no counselor to watch over them coming and going. No one watched over them to see if they could find jobs, and no professional was in charge 24/7 to see who was getting drugs inside the facility or staying during the night.
These are the things $3.7M should be going towards instead of guessing where it should be placed. Get a plan! Most addicted have deep-rooted problems from the past and a counselor running meetings is not going to do it. Money has to be put into giving the mental sick, because that is what they are, a one-on-one treatment with a psychiatrist, who has a degree in knowing how to win the trust over with patients so they can open up about their pain and past treatment from someone or pain with loss. Until this happens, they bury their past deep within themselves and will never recover.
Here we go, the Marijuana Fund. I believe in Marijuana if it is prescribed to handle a medical problem. I have been to halfway homes with men saying, “I have no idea why I am here. All I did was use Marijuana.” I tell them, “If it wasn’t a problem, you would not be here. Look at being in this rehab as a gift so you can put your life together before you go deeper into something stronger.” Most who were fighting drug use admitted they started with Marijuana. My feeling on this bill, which will be on the list to be voted on in Massachusetts, have the states interest because they see and hear the “Billions” of dollars other states are making from the sales. So I ask………….is it a way of making the money that interest them….or do you really want to find a control and save lives?
If Maine or any state wants to get “serious” about trying to stop the death-rate from this disease, the Maine Drug Enforcement Agency has to want every penny from the funds to work as much as the addicted have to want their recovery. You can’t stop in-between the treatment. Sit, make a plan step by step, beginning to end, and build a strong desire to solve the worldwide problem of addiction, and results from your program bringing the death -rate down.
Stop putting money in front of reaching a goal. If money is important with adding Marijuana openly to addicts than don’t waste the taxpayers dollars on trying to cure the alcoholic or drug user. It’s a curve to making money and adding a small amount to the fund to satisfy the professionals and users, only for the corrupt to benefit from the profits.
Jails for addicts. I do not believe an addict should be put behind bars, unless their actions killed someone, they robbed a business or some violent crime had been committed. Getting them off the street is a start, but not hidden with criminals for being sick. Spend the money on a clean center without the atmosphere coming across as a hospital. Don’t make them feel like they are being punished for a disease they are finding impossible to beat. They are mentally and physically sick. Until professional make this the number one problem, all your money will not find a cure or at least a control with drugs.
Let me remark on the section for “What Still Needs to be Done.”
I agree that a heavy educational program should start with the grammar school level. Why? Our kids are not as innocent as we think. In my book What is and isn’t Working for the Alcoholic and Addict written by 34 alcoholic and drug users, a woman told her story with starting at five and one at seven years of age with drinking.
Developing a support system: I believe it starts with family. A.A. and Al-Anon call this a “family disease,” and yet, I do not believe they treat it that way. We all go into different rooms for our meetings and no one is suppose to talk to the alcoholic or the family member as to what had been discussed trying to find help for all of us. In fact, I honestly feel that once a month an A.A. meeting should have a non-drinker talk about what they are feeling living with the alcoholic and an Al-Anon meeting should hear an alcoholic talk about their fears. This is how we learn what everyone feels and needs to desire recovery.
We need to stop this merry-go-round. As a family, we need to hear what others are feeling and need to stop the enabling, abuse, fear and confusion each and everyone of us suffer within the family behind closed doors. I had a breakdown trying to push my body and mind beyond what it could take trying to keep peace in our family instead of doing something about the repeated, daily action day after day. I feared being on my own, getting a divorce and had no understanding about the disease. Instead of hating the disease, I hated my husband. With my daughter, I lived in fear of losing her and didn’t make private times to listen to her pain and learn what she might have been doing with her friends. We learn more by listening than doing all the talking. The alcoholic and drug users cry out for help, but we don’t put our listening ears on to hear them.
I agree completely with helping them get an education and employment to give them hope and feel good about themselves again. That was the number one complaint I heard from the patients in a halfway home for men. They said with no jobs to get money, they felt like failures, trapped and saw noway out to get their life back to what it was without using.
Efforts to identify: Give the private counseling with doctors, psychiatrist, family members and a priest or minister. Yes, bring their faith back. A high percent of contributor to my book, believed going back to prayer, helped them in their hard times to recover.
In 2013, my husband, Al and I, met, in Boston, Massachusetts, with Steven Meunier, at the time, Senator John Kerry’s Policy Advisor. After losing Richie and Lori, we wanted to talk to them about what we thought had been needed to support and help the alcoholic, drug user and the mentally ill. We wanted to start by modifying, not change, the Patient Privacy Act. It gives the addict eighteen years of age and older, the right to refuse any help from doctors, staying in rehabs for help, or including any family member in their meetings and counseling. We believe in their privacy, but when a doctor states that the addict’s liver and kidneys are ready to shut down, we believe the family should have every right to over-ride that rule. We were the sober ones and remembered what happened during their younger years. They were drunk and remembered nothing, but suffer from “thinking” what happened to them or stay in a confused state not being able to judge what did or did not happen to them.
Both Senator Kerry and Mr. Meunier left their positions: Kerry to position of Secretary of State, and Mr. Meunier left to work for Blue Cross-Blue Shield. Neither had any idea where our papers went and the case had been dropped. We went to Senator Michael Rodrigues to push this further, asking him to help us go to Washington to talk to the people running the Alcohol and Drug Program,s and never heard from him for the past year.This shows the low interest our government and others have with putting this topic as number one.
This email was a way of trying to answer what is in the Maine’s program, what does it mean, and especially to face the reality what “might” be missing in the program or what is needed from a family who looks back saying other options were open.
I hope the state of Maine puts their hearts into this program for the alcoholic and drug user because good and healthy people are dying that have a lot to offer our country, their loved ones and themselves.
No. Dartmouth, MA 02747
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Alberta Sequeira will be speaking on the topic "The Effect of Alcoholism on the Whole Family." She will also be book signing. All her paperback and handbooks for workshops will be on sale at $10.00 each.
Ms. Sequeira lost her husband, Richard Lopes and her daughter, Lori Cahill of North Dighton, Massachusetts from their alcohol addiction. Richard died in 1985 at forty-five years of age at the VA Hospital in Providence, Rhode Island and Lori passed in 2006 from the same disease at thirty-nine at the Charlton Memorial Hospital in Fall River, Massachusetts.
She will be speaking to family members about enabling and a special talk directly to the alcoholic, drug user, including people fighting with the overuse of prescription drugs, hoping to give them strength to go into recovery and heal from this horrible worldwide problem. She will show that this is a family disease that is effecting every member of the family. No one comes out a winner. Ms. Sequeira invites all coping with the stress and the person suffering. This is an event for all.
Date: June 12, 2016
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Do you have someone suffering from substance abuse and can't stop? Are you going crazy trying every action to help them? Did you come to the conclusion that the screaming, yelling, fighting, threats, grounding, and taking the keys off them are not working? Do you find yourself 24/7 with just thinking with worry with where they are, what time they are coming home, who are they with, are they drugged-out laying unnoticed in some back alley? Have you stopped smiling, enjoying life, are you depressed, losing weight, or developed lost of happiness?
The questions we all ask could take up 50 pages. Until you come to the understanding that "they" have to want the help and go into rehab on their own, nothing is going to change. As parents, mates, friends, or siblings, all we can do is love and support them.
I am asked numerous times, "How do I know it is a problem?" The answer......"When it causes problems. Has the once content family gone to fighting, confusion, fear or abuse? Are they missing school, work, are the bills not being paid, money missing, do you find the family events have stopped, or friends are not coming over anymore? Does it all revolve around the drinking? There is your answer. First step...AS SOON AS YOU SEE these problems, get professional help, even if you have to go alone.
Someone has to get off the merry-go-round and make changes or the cycle of problems stay the same through years, until innocently, our enabling brings them deeper into their addiction, we have breakdowns, blackouts cause violence, and every member of the family falls apart mentally and physically along with the substance abuser.
You love them? Develop "Tough Love!" Even if it kills you. Feeling sorry for them, wondering where they will go if you kick them out or if they will survive, makes you keep them from being responsible for their actions.
After losing my husband, Richie Lopes and my daughter, Lori Cahill, I wanted to know, "What Did I Do Wrong? What Could I Have Done Better? How Can We Help These Poor Souls Who Are Killing Themselves?" Yes, more questions.
I had to have answers. I give speaking engagements to the patients behind closed doors and to family members and had the same unsettled feelings that are asked of me. Finally, I said, "I have to go directly to the on person who knows.......the alcoholic and drug user themselves!"
That is why I collected over 34 individual stories from substance abusers from all walks of life from Canada and the United States. I threw over 23 questions at them wanting nothing but the absolute true to help others, whether it was the addicted, family members, doctors or counselors. This worldwide problem is not being solved or getting answers. Instead, the death rate is climbing every day, never mind months or years!
If you want to hear the sad torments from the addicted with their feelings of pain suffering from this disease, then read What is and isn't Working for the Alcoholic and Addict: In Their Own Words, in paperback or Kindle. Learn and listen to what they are asking for to help them desire the want for recovery.
All my books are listed under Kindle and I am offering them to be available to you free in Kindle for the next 90 days so you can get a feel of my writing for both the alcoholic and family member. All my books are available at http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss_1?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=alberta+sequeira. Or key in my name Alberta Sequeira and every paperback, Kindle and handbook is available to purchase.
My number one book starts in the beginning with me meeting my husband, Richie, not realizing his problem right from the beginning in Someone Stop This Merry-Go-Round. The painful sequel is after losing Lori in Please, God, Not Two. The conclusion to every family member, including the addicted, being affected is in What is and isn't Working for the Alcoholic and Addict.
I wrote this Narrative Non-Fiction, What is and isn't Working for the Alcoholic and Addict: In Their Own Words, because I wanted honest and truthful answers on why people drink or take drugs. What could I have done differently with Richie and Lori?
So I went directly to the source: the addicted. This book was written by thirty-four individuals from all walks of life from the United States and Canada who were or are actively in a recovery program and wanted to share their habit and actions with their struggle trying to overcome their own addiction. Their main goal is to help others who are fighting with their recovery and sobriety. These are their own stories on how their addictions led to the devastation of losing control of their life, family, friends and the death of other family members from this disease we call Alcoholism.
Their desire is to lift other substances abusers, especially young people, in learning the reality that it’s not that drinking and taking drugs may, could, or would kill; they will.
Hopefully, the heartfelt honesty from the participants will help doctors and counselors to use their stories for their own study on what maybe missing in the treatment methods. The personal testaments within What is and isn’t Working for the Alcoholic and Addict are an added research as to how people are affected, and how they suffer from long-term drinking habits, and from living in an active alcoholic family.
What is and isn’t Working for the Alcoholic and Addict may become a learning process for family members to develop the awareness of what the substance abusers are asking for with their support system and recovery programs in order to overcome their addictions. The written statements are a start for all of us to understand the physically and mentally pain alcoholics and addicts are battling. Let us unite together as a family and society to combat this affliction.
Review on What is and isn't Working for the Alcoholic and Addict
As a senior level law enforcement and military combat trainer, there’s one thing that almost instantly turns students around from making fatal mistakes in training. That is proving to them, beyond any reasonable doubt, that the tactics/methods they have used are not working and will not work. Once the students come to terms with that, you now have students that can self-correct so much more of their actions on their own.
Awareness Coach and four-time award winning author, Alberta Sequeira, has deeply experienced what doesn’t work up close and personal. She has lost not just her husband, but her daughter as well, to alcohol abuse. If anyone wants to get help and see justice for those suffering with alcohol and addictions, its Ms. Sequeira. In this text she takes a departure from listening to the doctors, counselors in rehabilitation centers and “so called” experts. Instead she gives you raw data straight from the mouths of those who have lived through, are still recovering or have recovered from their alcohol addictions.
One of the reasons Alberta and I connected on this project was the success of the message and truths of my first book on alcoholism and addiction, You've Been Lied To...The UNTOLD truth about mainstream alcohol and addiction treatment programs and the SECRETS on how to eliminate the problem for good, which uncovers the lies we have been told about the mainstream alcohol and addiction treatment and the numerous solutions available to everybody but so few know about.
After about a decade of being in the mainstream treatment environment and culture myself, it was clear to me that the larger majority of people were not getting better, but in fact getting worse. The solution that is used today by 97% of the treatment culture is a one-size fits all approach and this solution has become very clear to me and other truth seekers in the areas of addiction recovery that it does not work to the degree that everyone thinks it does.
In the testimonies of the alcoholics and drug addict’s messages and solutions in What is and isn't Working for the Alcoholic and Addict, you hear directly from the source. What better way to get an uncensored and uncut version of what has and has not worked for them.
Even if you don’t have any issues with alcohol or addiction or haven’t known someone with these challenges, in your reading you’ll find that there’s more than one way to skin a cat and that these truths can be applied to many challenging areas in life, not just to addiction.
Alberta’s passion to help others so they don’t go through the same pain she has is very real and these stories can help and provide insights as to a path to success for yourself or others. Jump in with both feet. You’ve got nothing to lose and EVERYTHING to gain.
See you on the path….
Bio: Hank Hayes is the author of You've Been Lied To… The UNTOLD truth about mainstream alcohol and addiction treatment programs and the SECRETS on how to eliminate the problem for good. He is also the contributing author of The Ultimate Guide to Knife Combat.
Mr. Hayes has written dozen of articles for the Law Enforcement and Military Community and his inventions for the enforcement world have saved thousands of U.S. lives. He is available for performance workshops and power talks on overcoming obstacles, negative habits and other addictions. He can be contacted at [email protected]
The New Bedford Book Festival on March 5th and 6th went well. It’s always great to meet new authors and network. Behind me is a company that supplied soup and sandwiches for us. Lucky seat! Got invited to run a workshop on memoirs in July.
For someone who had no intentions of writing a book, mine are growing. The table is full. Thank you to the wonderful people who came to my table to share their stories with alcohol and drug addiction in their families and buying the books to give the substance abuser a voice. I was honored to have many alcoholics talk to me with their struggles and meeting others who have been in recovery for years.
I appreciated the chance to talk for a half hour in another room to share my story about losing Richie and Lori and having an open conversation with others on what we are all going through trying to help our loved ones.
I want to thank Tom Cirignano for taking this great picture of me unexpectedly with my books. He is an author from Lakeville, Massachusetts who sell his books titled The Constant Outsiderand the fictional 64 Cents. Visit him at www.theconstantoutsider.com.
The first NEW BEDFORD BOOK FESTIVAL will take place on Saturday, March 5 and Sunday, March 6 at Groundwork!, 1213 Purchase Street, New Bedford, Massachusetts from 11 a.m. to 4 p.m. each day.
Over 40 local authors, publishers and book sellers will be reading, selling or discussing their books with you at this free, public event.
Alberta Sequeira, will be one of the authors. Go to http://www.newbedfordnow.com/meet-our-authors/ and read about the upcoming authors at the event. Each day more will be added until all 40 are posted. Maybe the right genre will be there for you. Give our local authors support!
Alberta H. Sequeira was born in Pocasset, Massachusetts. Her father, Albert L. Gramm, had been a Brigadier General in the Army and one of the commanding officers of the 26th Yankee Division during WWII. She spent her childhood in various towns across the different states traveling. She lives in Rochester, Massachusetts with her husband, Al, and downsizing in February to North Dartmouth.
Ms. Sequeira is a four-time award winning author, a Motivational Speaker, and an Awareness Coach on Alcohol and Drug Abuse for private and public events after the loss of her husband and daughter from North Dighton, Massachusetts . She is the producer, director and co-host to the NBTV-95 Cable TV Station out of New Bedford, Massachusetts. Ms. Sequeira is a weekly writer for the Cape Cod Today blog at (http://www.capecodtoday.com/blogs/Journey)
Her first memoir A Spiritual Renewal:A Journey to Medjugorje is about her relationship with her father and learning too late about his remarkable military life fighting throughout Europe during WWII in the battles of Lorraine, Metz and The Battle of the Bulge. After her father’s death, a spiritual change takes her to Medjugorje in Bosnia. A ten day pilgrimage to this tiny, remote village allowed her to witness four out of six visionaries having apparitions daily with The Blessed Mother. Their first vision was in 1981 and still continuing today.Alberta_H_Sequeira-cover2
Her second memoir, Someone Stop This Merry-Go-Round; An Alcoholic Family in Crisis, is about her young life married to her alcoholic husband, Richard Lopes of North Dighton, Massachusetts and their two daughters who lived behind closed doors in silence with confusion and fear. It’s a roller coaster with Richie’s struggle trying to combat his addiction. Join her on a merry-go-round of her own enabling to only bring him deeper into his addiction. In 1985, Richie died at the VA Hospital in Providence, Rhode Island at 45 years old from cirrhosis of the liver.
The sequel Please, God, Not Two; This Killer Called Alcoholism is the continuation of their lives after Richie’s death, and the story follows her daughter, Lori Cahill, going down the same path as her father. On November 22, 2006, after three rehabilitation stays, Lori died at 39 years old at the Charlton Memorial Hospital in Fall River from the same horrible, worldwide disease. This book contains some of the author’s speaking engagements to alcoholic abusers at halfway homes and substance abuse rehabilitation centers.
What is and isn’t Working for the Alcoholics and Addicts; In Their Own Words is a Narrative Non-Fiction book of testimonies from thirty-four recovering alcoholics and drug addicts from all walks of life from the United States and Canada telling what they believe does and does not work in their recovery programs. Hopefully, these honest testimonies will help others fighting the same battle and heading down this same destructive path and for family members to learn from them how they are suffering physically and mentally from their substance abuse. They want to reach doctors, counselors, family members and society on what they believe is needed for support for them to desire professional help.
Her first fictional is due next year: The Rusty Years. Alberta wants readers to know there is a lighter side to her.
In 2013, Alberta and Al, met with Stephen Meunier, who at the time had been the Policy Advisor to Senator John Kerry, in his office located in Boston, Massachusetts. They presented ways to try to modify the Patient Privacy Act to help alcoholics, drug addicts, the mental ill and their families.
Reader Views of Austin, Texas had awarded A Spiritual Renewal; A Journey to Medjugorje the Reviewers Choice Award 2008 Semi-Finalist. Allbooks Review of Canada had nominated her memoirs Someone Stop This Merry-Go-Round with the “Editor’s Choice Award” and was nominated for the “Dan Poynter’s Global eBook Award 2011.” The sequel, Please, God, Not Two was also nominated for the “Editor’s Choice Award 2010” and appeared in the December 20, 2010 issue of Publishers Weekly.
She is a Continuing Education instructor for two three- hour writer’s workshops titled “Bring Your Manuscript to Publication” and “How to Self-Publish Your Own Book with Create Space. Both are published as handbooks with Amazon in paperback and Kindle.
Alberta is a co-founder to Authors Without Borders,” (www.awb6.com) with three other authors who offer their services with speaking engagements, readings, panel discussions, book signing, poetry slams and workshops at schools, bookstores, businesses, and libraries.
Ms. Sequeira will give a small talk on addiction.
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