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Podcast with Alberta Sequeira

I had a Podcast being interviewed by Joyce Walsh (one of the women in my author's group) in October and it came out November 1st.  Go to Google.com and key in or try clicking on the title below.  I was at the radio show Chart Productions in Braintree.  This show goes internationally.  
Go to Google.com and key in ...‎Mysteries, Myths & More on Apple Podcasts  

https://podcasts.apple.com › podcast › mysteries-myths-more

 

Podcast with Alberta Sequeira

I had a Podcast being interviewed by Joyce Walsh (one of the women in my author's group) in October and it came out November 1st.  Go to Google.com and key in or try clicking on the title below.  I was at the radio show Chart Productions in Braintree.  This show goes internationally.  
Go to Google.com and key in ...‎Mysteries, Myths & More on Apple Podcasts  

https://podcasts.apple.com › podcast › mysteries-myths-more

 

Excerpts from What is and isn't Working for the Alcoholic and Addict

Each week, I’m going to write parts of my book for readers to see if the interest is there in purchasing the book for a family member or themselves. Christmas would be a wonderful present. My Introduction to the book is about seven pages because it was what I saw and experienced losing both my husband, Richie, and my daughter, Lori. After the introduction, I will post some testimonies by the thirty-four contributors. 

PART I of the Introduction

When tragedy hits our family, many of us could tell our life stories. I wrote about the painful loss of my husband, Richard Lopes of North Dighton, Massachusetts, in Someone Stop This Merry-Go-Round; An Alcoholic Family in Crisis. Richard died February 10, 1985, at forty-five years of age at the VA Hospital in Providence, Rhode Island, after suffering from his alcohol addiction since his early teenage years, a family action that trickled down from one member to another. 

At the time, he left behind two beautiful daughters, Debbie, twenty-one years old, and her sister, Lori, seventeen. Richard died eleven years after we had divorced so I never saw the daily physical and emotional effects on him, except for the final year before he had been admitted two times and the last would be the last time to the VA Hospital. 

Tragedy struck again, when the demon, called alcoholism, returned and took my daughter, Lori. I published her story in the sequel Please, God, Not Two; This Killer Called Alcoholism. Lori died November 22, 2006, at the age of thirty-nine at the Charlton Memorial Hospital in Fall River, Massachusetts. She left behind a son, Joe Cahill, eighteen years old, and a daughter, Meagan Cahill, seventeen, of North Dighton, Massachusetts. My daughter Debbie and her husband Brian took Lori’s children into their home with their children, Michael and Kerri. 

There are no words to describe the pain a parent feels when losing a child no matter what the circumstances were that caused his or her death. Substance abuse seems like such a useless death, when a family member can see that there is hope if their child would only reach out to the alcoholic rehabilitation centers and family members who are offering to work with their loved one in a recovery program. 

The most devastating knowledge is realizing that no matter how much you love them, support them, pray for them, yell at them, threaten them or kick them out of the house, nothing will work until they want the help. It’s their battle.
What’s more shocking and fearful is the fact that if your loved one is over eighteen years of age and refuses to allow anyone to know what is going on behind closed doors in the recovery program there isn’t a thing you can do to get involved. You have no legal right to see health records, talk to a doctor about the treatment with the illness, or attend meetings with a counselor. 

In Massachusetts, with Lori’s death in 2006, the Patient Privacy Act allowed alcoholics, addicts, and mental health patients to shut parents and siblings out of their complete health updates as to what was being offered to them in the substance abuse rehabilitation center. Lori enforced this same act with her family, including her children. 

Our family didn’t have any knowledge that Lori had been an alcoholic or became bulimic until she was thirty-seven years old. When her declining health couldn’t be hidden any longer, Lori finally admitted that she had been told by her doctor that if she didn’t stop drinking, she’d be dead in two years or less because her liver would shut down. He wanted her to agree to be put on a liver transplant list as soon as possible. Again, she refused this action and forbade any of us to meet with her doctor to discuss this dangerous stage of her addiction. 

While Lori had been a patient at Butler Hospital in Providence, Rhode Island, her doctor and health insurance company had filed legal papers for her to be admitted into an alcohol rehabilitation center in Florida for a long-term stay of ninety days or longer. Lori informed us two months after the fact that she had declined the offer. Had they informed family members what the medical team was trying to do for her, our family would have given her the support to enter into the recovery program. During this process, we were not informed that the counselor had determined that she needed deeper therapy to recover. 

Lori hid many secrets, most notably her fears from the past, and refused to discuss them with her family or open up completely with her counselors. These were the reasons why I wanted to publish this book in order to learn what is and isn’t working for the alcoholic and addict in their recovery. Why do some alcoholics recover and others drink themselves to death? How can some give up their addiction without any treatment in a rehabilitation center and others need the help to survive? Because Lori wouldn’t talk to us, I wanted to know what the substance abusers felt. Could we have done something differently? 

I feel that Lori’s three ten-day stays in detox and rehabilitation centers only pacified her alcoholic condition. The reality is that health insurance companies, substance abuse rehabilitation centers, and hospitals all know that the percentage is extremely high that the patients will return needing treatment over and over again. No one can clean out their bodies from the years of using alcohol and drugs in that short a period of treatment and develop a clear mind to make healthy decisions. At least a six-month long-term stay is needed without being able to leave. Making the change can help patients work toward a beginning recovery stage by clearing their minds of alcohol or drugs and enabling them to make strong and sound decisions to recover. 

Part 2 to continue with the next writing.

Alberta Sequeira
[email protected]
Books at www.amazon.com/author/albertasequeira

 

Interview with Sheriff Thomas Hodgson

https://vimeo.com/254517198The first 1/2 hour is my interview with Sheriff Thomas Hodgson. The last 1/2 is taken live during my talk to the women inmates at the Bristol County Jail in Dartmouth, Massachusetts. It’s a very educational talk with the pain I went through as a mother losing my daughter, Lori, and my husband, Richard. 

I talk openly about what the substance abusers should look at honestly with continuing down the path of destruction or reaching out for help.

Alberta Sequeira
Email: [email protected]
Website: www.albertasequeira.wordpress.com

https://vimeo.com/254517198

Indie Author Day

AUTHORS WITHOUT BORDERS

One-Day Writers’ Conference on Indie Author Day 

Fairhaven, Massachusetts — On Saturday, October 12thAuthors Without Borders is pairing with the national Indie Author Day to present a one-day conference for aspiring, published, and unpublished writers. Here is your chance to listen to and speak with multi-award-winning authors and a New York book publisher open to new clients.

AWB is the only official South Coast host for the annual Indie Author Day, which is held throughout the nation on October 12th. With sponsorship from Boston’s Uphams Corner Library, AWB will offer presentations by award-winning author Steven Manchester on “Chasing the Dream,” and Rhonda Penders, publisher, President, and Chief Editor for The Wild Rose Press (New York) who will speak on the role of traditional, Indie, and self-publishing.

There will be ample time for discussion with each presenter as well as with the AWB founders (Pat Perry, fiction; Alberta Sequeira, memoirs; Joyce Keller Walsh, mysteries & mainstream; Willie Pleasants, poetry & short stories).

The program will be held in the function room of the Atria Senior Living facility behind Alden Court Nursing Care at 389 Alden Rd., Fairhaven, MA, from 11 am to 2 pm.  The cost to attend is $20 for AWB members and $30 for non-members. Light luncheon refreshments will be served.

Register by Monday, September 23rd. Payment by check can be mailed to Alberta Sequeira, 11 Midway Park Drive, Apt 316, N. Dartmouth, MA 02747 or PayPal payment is available at www.awb6.com. Questions may be addressed to the AWB email at: [email protected].

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Mail-In Form

RSVP: September 23, 2019

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Mail check with this form to Alberta Sequeira, 11 Midway Park Drive, Apt. 316, N. Dartmouth, MA 02747.  Any questions call Alberta Sequeira at 508-938-5322.

PayPal is available at www.awb6.com to pay for the upcoming event. 

BRING A FRIEND!

 

Second Indie Writer's hosts in Massachusetts

AWB Olive Garden

My group, Authors Without Borders (www.awb6.com), is officially a host for the Indie Writers. We run their workshops. We are the second hosts in Massachusetts. 

Watch for our next upcoming event on October 12, 2019,​ in Fairhaven, MA. The information will be posted in a week. SAVE THE DATE! Invite friends to joing you. 

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Alberta Sequeira
[email protected]
Order books directly at www.amazon.com/author/albertasequeira ​

Interview with Sheriff Thomas Hodgson

Interview with Sheriff Thomas Hodgson

Alberta Sequeira talks to the women inmates at the Bristol County Jail in North Dartmouth, MA

https://vimeo.com/254517198
 

Please, share with others.

Thanks!
Alberta Sequeira

 

Who adds to Addiction?

Today, I just hung up from talking to a friend who had attended a funeral for the son of her boss. He was 42 years old and had been an alcoholic and drug user for years. Countless times he had been into short rehabs stays, coming out dry, and only returning to his same neighborhood and friends, to open him up again to falling-back to using. 

It’s not important to know his name or where he lives. There are too many fighting this disease, not just in your neighborhood or family, but worldwide; young, old, white, black, rich, poor, famous and an average person with no fame, married or single. 

He had just gotten back with his ex-wife to start life over with their two children. She came home and found he had hung himself. Where do I find the correct words to explain the pain deep within families who have lost loved ones to this cruel and heartless demon? Only the ones who have lived through the fear, confusion, breakdowns, and abuse, know what I am talking about with this kind of tragedy. You can feel sad and sorry for families, but until, you walk in our shoes, you will not share in our emotions and stories. 

This poor man who had been fighting to get his life back to normal must have felt hopeless, worthless, and gave up on ever living a life without a struggle with addiction. The news brought me right back tlosing Richie and Lori to their addiction. 

They didn’t commit suicide like him, but everyone seems to have a different reason for turning to alcohol, drugs, or prescription pills to handle their problems. No one wants to come out of the closet and say, “I need help.” No one wants to bring up the past with some tragedy that happened in their life to only reopen it again with the pain, not knowing what did or didn’t happen to their young memories. 

There are many catastrophes that happen to an alcoholic or drug user that maybe the parents, siblings, or friends can’t understand why the addicted can’t “get over” something in the past when something happens to them holding them back from getting on with their life without using. 

To many struggle with a death of a parent or close friend, being forced into an abortion, being beaten by a child, listening to parents fight, seeing a parent or someone close to you coming home in blackouts causing the fear, confusion, and violence in the family behind closed doors can be devastating to the child who can’t defend themselves or find security within the family. They grow up with no feeling of love.

Remember how they were treated as a child in life or their teenage years.  These events, mold them into what and who they become later in life. Not talking about the actions with substance abusers, only makes them do the same to their families and generation.  

Richie and Lori died of cirrhosis of the liver. That is a horrible way to die. Richie and Lori had IV’s in both arms, swollen stomachs like pregnant women, their skin and whites to their eyes had turned yellow and their organs slowly shut down. Richie went into a coma and died after 3 weeks in the hospital, and Lori’s doctors from Charlton Memorial in Fall River did a procedure twice to tie tiny elastic bands around her veins in her esophagus. She also lived for three weeks, had a hemorrhage in her rectum, and went into a coma.  She was put on life-support. 

Two days later, we had to say goodbye and let her go home to God.  I heard Lori take her first cry at birth and her last breath on this earth shutting down the life support machine.  This is the hardest decision in this world is to let a loved one die by shutting this device off.

You always live with the fear that if you had waited a little longer, they might have come out of the coma.  I wished God had taken her the three weeks earlier than to live on the hope that she would live, instead of shutting a machine off only to watch her heart rate slow down to a stop.  It makes you feel like you ended her life.  This is alcoholism. 

I remember Dr. Phil’s remark to the woman on his show.  “You realize you’re not going into rehabilitation for a day, week or a month.  It’s until! There is the answer.  Until you are dried-out, can make healthy decisions with your life, and face the deep-rooted problems that are eating away at you.  Only then, you may have a chance for survival. 

Who and what keeps the addicted active?  I saw on television, a football player who had been an alcoholic and addict but recovered.  His desire was to help young kids.  He made a remark to them that made me stop what I was doing. “Show me your friends, and I’ll show you your future!” Think about it.  When they get out of rehab, they run to the same friends doing the same abuse, at the same location.  They meet with the same drug dealers.

Years ago, our kids were street smart.  Today, we are not fact smart.  Our education has to start at the grammar school level.  Our children are not as innocent to things happening in their neighborhood as you think.  In my book What is and isn’t Working for the Alcoholic and Drug Addict, two contributors admitted to trying their first drink at five years old and the other at seven. 

This is why I believe we need a daily class on substance abuse with grammar age children.  By that age, our sons and daughters are mixing in with others who are looking for ways to get their thrills and they look up to the older kids.  Until they have an education these kids have no future if they continue and face death if they don’t stop.  We have to show our children the facts about the high death-rate with alcohol and drug abuse.  Doctors have to stop refilling pain pills.  They don’t take a second glance at what might be going on with the patient.  I blame them with the same actions that family do…doctors are great enablers.  Filling prescription drugs over and over makes them as responsible with their death as the pill they are taking.

Health insurance companies have to make a change in today’s life covering the cost for long term recovery programs.  They need to face the reality that substance abusers need at least a year or longer in a recovery program without coming out until their time is up with more professional help when they do.  In my past life watching Richie and Lori, I came to the conclusion, it’s not counselors substance abusers need but psychiatrist.  

Addicts have to take their own responsibility with the years of using.  They have to get real with the fact, you can’t get dry and then return to the same friends who use or the same corner to get those drug. You have to have no doubt in your mind that this continued action is going to kill you.  Not maybe, but when. 

To the school systems and families, start today teaching our children about alcohol abuse and drug use.  Do we need to put fear into them………..in my opinion, YES.  It can save their life.

Author and Speaker, Alberta Sequeira

www.albertasequeira.wordpress.com

Books: www.amazon.com/author/albertasequeira

 

Who adds to Addiction?

Today, I just hung up from talking to a friend who had attended a funeral for the son of her boss. He was 42 years old and had been an alcoholic and drug user for years. Countless times he had been into short rehabs stays, coming out dry, and only returning to his same neighborhood and friends, to open him up again to falling-back to using. 

It’s not important to know his name or where he lives. There are too many fighting this disease, not just in your neighborhood or family, but worldwide; young, old, white, black, rich, poor, famous and an average person with no fame, married or single. 

He had just gotten back with his ex-wife to start life over with their two children. She came home and found he had hung himself. Where do I find the correct words to explain the pain deep within families who have lost loved ones to this cruel and heartless demon? Only the ones who have lived through the fear, confusion, breakdowns, and abuse, know what I am talking about with this kind of tragedy. You can feel sad and sorry for families, but until, you walk in our shoes, you will not share in our emotions and stories. 

This poor man who had been fighting to get his life back to normal must have felt hopeless, worthless, and gave up on ever living a life without a struggle with addiction. The news brought me right back tlosing Richie and Lori to their addiction. 

They didn’t commit suicide like him, but everyone seems to have a different reason for turning to alcohol, drugs, or prescription pills to handle their problems. No one wants to come out of the closet and say, “I need help.” No one wants to bring up the past with some tragedy that happened in their life to only reopen it again with the pain, not knowing what did or didn’t happen to their young memories. 

There are many catastrophes that happen to an alcoholic or drug user that maybe the parents, siblings, or friends can’t understand why the addicted can’t “get over” something in the past when something happens to them holding them back from getting on with their life without using. 

To many struggle with a death of a parent or close friend, being forced into an abortion, being beaten by a child, listening to parents fight, seeing a parent or someone close to you coming home in blackouts causing the fear, confusion, and violence in the family behind closed doors can be devastating to the child who can’t defend themselves or find security within the family. They grow up with no feeling of love.

Remember how they were treated as a child in life or their teenage years.  These events, mold them into what and who they become later in life. Not talking about the actions with substance abusers, only makes them do the same to their families and generation.  

Richie and Lori died of cirrhosis of the liver. That is a horrible way to die. Richie and Lori had IV’s in both arms, swollen stomachs like pregnant women, their skin and whites to their eyes had turned yellow and their organs slowly shut down. Richie went into a coma and died after 3 weeks in the hospital, and Lori’s doctors from Charlton Memorial in Fall River did a procedure twice to tie tiny elastic bands around her veins in her esophagus. She also lived for three weeks, had a hemorrhage in her rectum, and went into a coma.  She was put on life-support. 

Two days later, we had to say goodbye and let her go home to God.  I heard Lori take her first cry at birth and her last breath on this earth shutting down the life support machine.  This is the hardest decision in this world is to let a loved one die by shutting this device off.

You always live with the fear that if you had waited a little longer, they might have come out of the coma.  I wished God had taken her the three weeks earlier than to live on the hope that she would live, instead of shutting a machine off only to watch her heart rate slow down to a stop.  It makes you feel like you ended her life.  This is alcoholism. 

I remember Dr. Phil’s remark to the woman on his show.  “You realize you’re not going into rehabilitation for a day, week or a month.  It’s until! There is the answer.  Until you are dried-out, can make healthy decisions with your life, and face the deep-rooted problems that are eating away at you.  Only then, you may have a chance for survival. 

Who and what keeps the addicted active?  I saw on television, a football player who had been an alcoholic and addict but recovered.  His desire was to help young kids.  He made a remark to them that made me stop what I was doing. “Show me your friends, and I’ll show you your future!” Think about it.  When they get out of rehab, they run to the same friends doing the same abuse, at the same location.  They meet with the same drug dealers.

Years ago, our kids were street smart.  Today, we are not fact smart.  Our education has to start at the grammar school level.  Our children are not as innocent to things happening in their neighborhood as you think.  In my book What is and isn’t Working for the Alcoholic and Drug Addict, two contributors admitted to trying their first drink at five years old and the other at seven. 

This is why I believe we need a daily class on substance abuse with grammar age children.  By that age, our sons and daughters are mixing in with others who are looking for ways to get their thrills and they look up to the older kids.  Until they have an education these kids have no future if they continue and face death if they don’t stop.  We have to show our children the facts about the high death-rate with alcohol and drug abuse.  Doctors have to stop refilling pain pills.  They don’t take a second glance at what might be going on with the patient.  I blame them with the same actions that family do…doctors are great enablers.  Filling prescription drugs over and over makes them as responsible with their death as the pill they are taking.

Health insurance companies have to make a change in today’s life covering the cost for long term recovery programs.  They need to face the reality that substance abusers need at least a year or longer in a recovery program without coming out until their time is up with more professional help when they do.  In my past life watching Richie and Lori, I came to the conclusion, it’s not counselors substance abusers need but psychiatrist.  

Addicts have to take their own responsibility with the years of using.  They have to get real with the fact, you can’t get dry and then return to the same friends who use or the same corner to get those drug. You have to have no doubt in your mind that this continued action is going to kill you.  Not maybe, but when. 

To the school systems and families, start today teaching our children about alcohol abuse and drug use.  Do we need to put fear into them………..in my opinion, YES.  It can save their life.

 

Interview with Alberta Sequeira

       Official Apex Reviews

Interviewed Alberta Sequeira on her published book, What Is and Isn't Working for the Alcoholic and Addict: In Their Own Words.

Thanks for joining us for this interview, Alberta. We're looking forward to sharing more about your book and other efforts with our readers.

 

What inspired you to compile this rather eye-opening treatise on the lives of addicts in recovery?

My writing on addiction started from the tragedy of losing my husband, Richard Lopes and my daughter, Lori (Lopes) Cahill from North Dighton, Massachusetts from their own alcohol abuse. I wrote my books because I felt there was something important to share with substance abusers and their families. Alcohol and drug abuse are so out-of-control that even the professionals are having a hard time trying to find ways to stop the yearly death-rate from climbing. I feel that adults and our children have lost their way in learning how to handle their pain and separating what they think is fun from what may kill them.

I had already published Someone Stop This Merry-Go-Round: An Alcoholic Family in Crisis, which is about my young marriage to Richard, our ups and downs with his drinking, the confusion, fear and abuse behind closed doors, the enabling, and the effect on our two daughters, Debbie and Lori. Richie died in 1985 in the VA Hospital in Providence, Rhode Island at forty-five years of age from his drinking since his teenage years. His mother, sister, brother, daughter, niece, and nephews drank, along with past relatives. 

After losing Lori in 2006 in the Charlton Memorial Hospital in Fall River, Massachusetts at thirty-nine from the same disease, I wrote the sequel Please, God, Not Two: This Killer Called Alcoholism. I talk about Lori’s three alcoholic rehab stays and her struggle to reach sobriety. She had been admitted once to the Butler Hospital in Providence, Rhode Island and twice to Gosnold Rehabilitation Center in Falmouth, Massachusetts.  

They are open books on the reality of what happens to each individual in a family with an abusive drinker. I write about my situations with mistakes and the missed opportunities that would have been handled differently today. I could have named the books What not to do with Alcohol Abuse. I even added my talks to addicts at halfway homes, rehabs and court-ordered programs in the sequel. They are books of lessons more than being memoirs.

After Lori’s death, I started to wonder why some alcoholics and drug users recover and put their lives together while others die from this horrible, worldwide problem. What gives them the physical and mental strength to fight this battle and come out winning? These questions and the heartbreak of losing two loved ones from alcohol addiction encouraged What is and isn’t Working for the Alcoholic and Addict: In Their Own Words. I thought if I had these questions then other families did, too. Richie and Lori never opened up about their emotions or needs. I wanted to learn what addicts go through that I missed. I came from a very close and loving family and had no education or knowledge about substance abuse.

Was it difficult for you to gather together the 34 different contributors to the volume?

I realized that the only way to get the answers to my questions about the alcoholics emotions was to go directly to the source; the alcoholics and drug addicts. Who would know more than the ones who are living the life of addiction? I placed an ad online in Reporter Connection and asked if anyone was willing to tell their private stories with their own struggle overcoming their substance abuse for my book I was writing. I had to turn people away with so much response. Thirty-four substance abusers from all walks in life from the United States and Canada gave their testimonies. I left nothing out from their stories or changed a word. These are their stories. 

Were any of the contributors reluctant to share the deeper, more personal details of their lives and addictions on a public stage?

They were excited to share their battle with addiction and wanted to get a message to doctors, counselors, family members, and society to learn, not only what the addict is looking for with support to help them through their recovery, but new ways to help the addicted. Many said telling their story was a healing process for them. A few didn’t want to give their names but told where they lived. Most were direct with their names and job titles. Their stories start from as young as five years old to their present life. They didn’t hide anything with the fact that their life had been turned upside down from their drinking, what they lost, and spoke about other relatives that died from their addiction. 

How have readers reacted to the book thus far?

After reading each contributor’s story, a lot of readers realized that childhood emotional wounds mold us into what we became in adulthood, especially with living in an alcoholic family, denial, enabling, and the life we considered to be normal to us at the time. 

One girl wrote a review on Amazon, “I have learned a lot from family and friends who are in recovery and this book took it one level deeper. The stories are raw, honest and heartfelt from the people who lived through the pain and came out on the other side. I would recommend this book to family members or friends who want to know how an addict/alcoholic thinks. It's also could be a good way to open a conversation with a loved one who is struggling to come to grips with whether they have a problem. We all want to know the right way to handle things and I think Alberta's book gives us insight that there is no “right" answer that applies to every addict. Bravo to the folks telling their stories!”

John Daubney, a contributor wrote: 

“Having the addicts tell what worked for them and didn’t would be a most helpful addition to the literature on the subject of addiction and recovery.” 

Is there a central message you'd like readers to take away from the book?

Often people want to debate with me on whether addiction is hereditary, a disease, or a choice. They are all right in my eyes. Each addict has their own reason why they went down the path of drinking or taking drugs. With Richard’s family history, a lot of them over-drank and still are to the point of being alcoholics. Others start from following the crowd, like college kids or younger, thinking everyone is cool and “What’s the harm, everyone is doing it? No big deal!” They truly believe that they can stop anytime. The last reason, which I consider to be the number one, is that the person is trying to hide a horrible event from the past that devastated them and they can’t deal with the problem or can’t find the strength to get professional help. In my opinion, doctors and counselor should look more into “why” a person is using more than the action of drinking or using drugs.  

I want readers to know that What is and isn’t Working for the Alcoholic and Addict is not only for substance abusers but for family members to learn how to help the alcoholic and what not to do; an example, innocently, our enabling brings them deeper into their addiction. We as a family live in denial as much as the user. The contributors to this book are trying to tell us what they need to recover. 

My greatest achievement with this book would be to see the interest to add it to any educational programs in libraries, school programs, or sitting on the bookshelves in all bookstores. It’s a book for the whole family. This book was published by me, but the contributors are the ones trying to save lives who are connected to alcohol and drug addiction. 

Family members reach the point of being emotionally and physically drained trying to help the alcoholic. I had a small breakdown from the years of fighting to control Richie’s drinking. I pushed my body and mind beyond what it could take instead of realizing that the addict has to help themselves. We can only love and support them. 

Please share more with our readers about your other writings.

I had dreams of traveling to tropical islands during my retirement, but God had other plans for me. As I mentioned, I became a writer from the tragedy in my life.

My writing started with my father’s death in 1990 when he died of cancer. I was going to write a book for my family so I could leave his military history to all our generations. Albert L. Gramm was a Brigadier General in the Army and was one of the commanding officers of the 26th Yankee Division during WWII and fought in Metz, Lorraine and the famous Battle of the Bulge. To get information on his life, I went to the Yankee Doings Magazine and asked if anyone knew him. I received personal calls, pictures, emails, and letters from his fellow servicemen. One man sent me the full bio of his life during WWII. 

During my father’s cancer, he wanted to go to Medjugorje in Bosnia because of the miracles happening there since 1981 with six visionaries having ten secrets given to them on a daily basis, and up to this day, from The Blessed Mother that will be revealed to the world when they all get all of them. There are two visionaries left to get one more secret. One by one, a priest will read them. 

I took the ten-day pilgrimage for my father after his death and my life changed forever being in the visionary’s company while they had apparitions with Our Lady. I believe that trip helped me deal with the loss of Lori. 

That's how my first book A Spiritual Renewal: A Journey to Medjugorje got in the works. I added the miracles that happened to me that got me to this tiny, remote village to the book along with my relationship with my father. 

The other two memoirs, Someone Stop This Merry-Go-Round: An Alcoholic Family in Crisis and the sequel, Please, God, Not Two: This Killer Called Alcoholism, on alcohol abuse in our family followed. I have completed my personal stories about my life with pain and finding my way back in life.

In addition to being an author, you're also an experienced director, producer, and Co-host to a cable TV show as well as a continuing educational instructor. Please share more with our readers about your endeavors in those fields.

My other titles came from becoming a co-founder with three other authors and named our group Authors Without Borders (www.awb6.com). We discovered that it cost us less dividing the expense with festivals or other events. We co-authored with our first book Loose Ends. It is a book of diverse collections of intriguing and insightful short stories, poems, and book excerpts that we hope will quench a reader’s thirst and captivate their imagination and emotions.  The four of us are more than authors. Our backgrounds would amaze readers. We also teach at colleges, libraries and other locations with writing, talks, poetry reading or book signings. 

We then went to a class at the NBTV-95 Cable Show in New Bedford, Massachusetts to learn how to have a cable show and developed Authors Without Borders Presents. It was fun learning to run the cameras and direct the program. We interview other writers, authors, managers of bookstores, poets, and publishers. We are hoping people who are interested in learning what faces them in the publishing world would have the desire to watch and learn what others go through to help them. One of our members, Willie Pleasants, has her own cable show called Willie’s Web out of Boston, Massachusetts with the Boston Neighborhood Network. We interview authors in that area on her show. People can become Associated Members on our site and we will give them an interview and a spot on our website. They can email us at [email protected]

As for my continuing education as an instructor, I listened to the telephone workshop programs for free with Steve Harrison, and he had someone explain the difference with a poor author and a rich one. The poor one is happy with just selling books at bookstores, while the rich one looks for ways to grow with their hidden talent, so I developed three-three hour workshops: “Bring Your Manuscript to Publication”,   “How to Self-Publish Your Own Book with Create Space,” and Writing Memoirs. 

I took my pain from my husband and daughter’s loss and became a Motivational Speaker on Alcohol and Drug Abuse and go wherever I get invited to talk. It’s hard to believe that I would never talk in front of people.

What's next for you?

I am now having fun with working on my first fictional The Rusty Years; The Remembrance of Being Young. Hopefully, it will be completed next year. Right now The Wild Rose Press requested a query letter from me. I want my followers and readers to see a lighter side of me. No more memoirs. My personal life is out there for the world to see. 

I am open to speaking on the topic of “The Effect of Alcoholism on the Whole Family” or “My Spiritual Change Within” from my trip to Medjugorje if someone sends for a quote. 

Willie Pleasants is trying to give me the courage to open my own cable show on the topic of addiction. I just edited my first standalone video on the cable show due out soon. Something I will be thinking about in the future.

How can our readers learn more about you and your ongoing efforts?

I have a lot of articles on the Internet once you key my name in to find anything about me. Or you can go to my blog on WordPress titled “Choices” at www.albertasequeira.wordpress.com. My blog for writers and authors is www.albertasequeira.org.

How can they contact you directly?

Send me an email at [email protected], and I’ll be happy to reply back. I love to hear from people.

Any final thoughts you'd like to share?

Never give up on wanting to write. We all have a story hidden in us. You may think no one would be interested, but write for you. Don’t write what you think people want to read but send a message to them that will help in their life with stress and struggles with problems. Send something funny in a fictional book. We all need a laugh in the terrible news around the world.  If you talk about what you know during a presentation or at a book signing, readers will want to buy your book(s). Writing has to be fun, not boring or a chore. Take a day off from the computer if you are forcing yourself to write. 

Where can readers find your books?

They can go directly to www.amazon.com/author/albertasequeira and all my published paperback and Kindle books will show up. 

Thanks again, Alberta, and best of continued success to you in all your endeavors!

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