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Interview with Sheriff Thomas Hodgson

https://vimeo.com/254517198The first 1/2 hour is my interview with Sheriff Thomas Hodgson. The last 1/2 is taken live during my talk to the women inmates at the Bristol County Jail in Dartmouth, Massachusetts. It’s a very educational talk with the pain I went through as a mother losing my daughter, Lori, and my husband, Richard. 

I talk openly about what the substance abusers should look at honestly with continuing down the path of destruction or reaching out for help.

Alberta Sequeira
Email: [email protected]
Website: www.albertasequeira.wordpress.com

https://vimeo.com/254517198

Indie Author Day

AUTHORS WITHOUT BORDERS

One-Day Writers’ Conference on Indie Author Day 

Fairhaven, Massachusetts — On Saturday, October 12thAuthors Without Borders is pairing with the national Indie Author Day to present a one-day conference for aspiring, published, and unpublished writers. Here is your chance to listen to and speak with multi-award-winning authors and a New York book publisher open to new clients.

AWB is the only official South Coast host for the annual Indie Author Day, which is held throughout the nation on October 12th. With sponsorship from Boston’s Uphams Corner Library, AWB will offer presentations by award-winning author Steven Manchester on “Chasing the Dream,” and Rhonda Penders, publisher, President, and Chief Editor for The Wild Rose Press (New York) who will speak on the role of traditional, Indie, and self-publishing.

There will be ample time for discussion with each presenter as well as with the AWB founders (Pat Perry, fiction; Alberta Sequeira, memoirs; Joyce Keller Walsh, mysteries & mainstream; Willie Pleasants, poetry & short stories).

The program will be held in the function room of the Atria Senior Living facility behind Alden Court Nursing Care at 389 Alden Rd., Fairhaven, MA, from 11 am to 2 pm.  The cost to attend is $20 for AWB members and $30 for non-members. Light luncheon refreshments will be served.

Register by Monday, September 23rd. Payment by check can be mailed to Alberta Sequeira, 11 Midway Park Drive, Apt 316, N. Dartmouth, MA 02747 or PayPal payment is available at www.awb6.com. Questions may be addressed to the AWB email at: [email protected].

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BRING A FRIEND!

 

Second Indie Writer's hosts in Massachusetts

AWB Olive Garden

My group, Authors Without Borders (www.awb6.com), is officially a host for the Indie Writers. We run their workshops. We are the second hosts in Massachusetts. 

Watch for our next upcoming event on October 12, 2019,​ in Fairhaven, MA. The information will be posted in a week. SAVE THE DATE! Invite friends to joing you. 

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Alberta Sequeira
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Order books directly at www.amazon.com/author/albertasequeira ​

Interview with Sheriff Thomas Hodgson

Interview with Sheriff Thomas Hodgson

Alberta Sequeira talks to the women inmates at the Bristol County Jail in North Dartmouth, MA

https://vimeo.com/254517198
 

Please, share with others.

Thanks!
Alberta Sequeira

 

Who adds to Addiction?

Today, I just hung up from talking to a friend who had attended a funeral for the son of her boss. He was 42 years old and had been an alcoholic and drug user for years. Countless times he had been into short rehabs stays, coming out dry, and only returning to his same neighborhood and friends, to open him up again to falling-back to using. 

It’s not important to know his name or where he lives. There are too many fighting this disease, not just in your neighborhood or family, but worldwide; young, old, white, black, rich, poor, famous and an average person with no fame, married or single. 

He had just gotten back with his ex-wife to start life over with their two children. She came home and found he had hung himself. Where do I find the correct words to explain the pain deep within families who have lost loved ones to this cruel and heartless demon? Only the ones who have lived through the fear, confusion, breakdowns, and abuse, know what I am talking about with this kind of tragedy. You can feel sad and sorry for families, but until, you walk in our shoes, you will not share in our emotions and stories. 

This poor man who had been fighting to get his life back to normal must have felt hopeless, worthless, and gave up on ever living a life without a struggle with addiction. The news brought me right back tlosing Richie and Lori to their addiction. 

They didn’t commit suicide like him, but everyone seems to have a different reason for turning to alcohol, drugs, or prescription pills to handle their problems. No one wants to come out of the closet and say, “I need help.” No one wants to bring up the past with some tragedy that happened in their life to only reopen it again with the pain, not knowing what did or didn’t happen to their young memories. 

There are many catastrophes that happen to an alcoholic or drug user that maybe the parents, siblings, or friends can’t understand why the addicted can’t “get over” something in the past when something happens to them holding them back from getting on with their life without using. 

To many struggle with a death of a parent or close friend, being forced into an abortion, being beaten by a child, listening to parents fight, seeing a parent or someone close to you coming home in blackouts causing the fear, confusion, and violence in the family behind closed doors can be devastating to the child who can’t defend themselves or find security within the family. They grow up with no feeling of love.

Remember how they were treated as a child in life or their teenage years.  These events, mold them into what and who they become later in life. Not talking about the actions with substance abusers, only makes them do the same to their families and generation.  

Richie and Lori died of cirrhosis of the liver. That is a horrible way to die. Richie and Lori had IV’s in both arms, swollen stomachs like pregnant women, their skin and whites to their eyes had turned yellow and their organs slowly shut down. Richie went into a coma and died after 3 weeks in the hospital, and Lori’s doctors from Charlton Memorial in Fall River did a procedure twice to tie tiny elastic bands around her veins in her esophagus. She also lived for three weeks, had a hemorrhage in her rectum, and went into a coma.  She was put on life-support. 

Two days later, we had to say goodbye and let her go home to God.  I heard Lori take her first cry at birth and her last breath on this earth shutting down the life support machine.  This is the hardest decision in this world is to let a loved one die by shutting this device off.

You always live with the fear that if you had waited a little longer, they might have come out of the coma.  I wished God had taken her the three weeks earlier than to live on the hope that she would live, instead of shutting a machine off only to watch her heart rate slow down to a stop.  It makes you feel like you ended her life.  This is alcoholism. 

I remember Dr. Phil’s remark to the woman on his show.  “You realize you’re not going into rehabilitation for a day, week or a month.  It’s until! There is the answer.  Until you are dried-out, can make healthy decisions with your life, and face the deep-rooted problems that are eating away at you.  Only then, you may have a chance for survival. 

Who and what keeps the addicted active?  I saw on television, a football player who had been an alcoholic and addict but recovered.  His desire was to help young kids.  He made a remark to them that made me stop what I was doing. “Show me your friends, and I’ll show you your future!” Think about it.  When they get out of rehab, they run to the same friends doing the same abuse, at the same location.  They meet with the same drug dealers.

Years ago, our kids were street smart.  Today, we are not fact smart.  Our education has to start at the grammar school level.  Our children are not as innocent to things happening in their neighborhood as you think.  In my book What is and isn’t Working for the Alcoholic and Drug Addict, two contributors admitted to trying their first drink at five years old and the other at seven. 

This is why I believe we need a daily class on substance abuse with grammar age children.  By that age, our sons and daughters are mixing in with others who are looking for ways to get their thrills and they look up to the older kids.  Until they have an education these kids have no future if they continue and face death if they don’t stop.  We have to show our children the facts about the high death-rate with alcohol and drug abuse.  Doctors have to stop refilling pain pills.  They don’t take a second glance at what might be going on with the patient.  I blame them with the same actions that family do…doctors are great enablers.  Filling prescription drugs over and over makes them as responsible with their death as the pill they are taking.

Health insurance companies have to make a change in today’s life covering the cost for long term recovery programs.  They need to face the reality that substance abusers need at least a year or longer in a recovery program without coming out until their time is up with more professional help when they do.  In my past life watching Richie and Lori, I came to the conclusion, it’s not counselors substance abusers need but psychiatrist.  

Addicts have to take their own responsibility with the years of using.  They have to get real with the fact, you can’t get dry and then return to the same friends who use or the same corner to get those drug. You have to have no doubt in your mind that this continued action is going to kill you.  Not maybe, but when. 

To the school systems and families, start today teaching our children about alcohol abuse and drug use.  Do we need to put fear into them………..in my opinion, YES.  It can save their life.

Author and Speaker, Alberta Sequeira

www.albertasequeira.wordpress.com

Books: www.amazon.com/author/albertasequeira

 

Who adds to Addiction?

Today, I just hung up from talking to a friend who had attended a funeral for the son of her boss. He was 42 years old and had been an alcoholic and drug user for years. Countless times he had been into short rehabs stays, coming out dry, and only returning to his same neighborhood and friends, to open him up again to falling-back to using. 

It’s not important to know his name or where he lives. There are too many fighting this disease, not just in your neighborhood or family, but worldwide; young, old, white, black, rich, poor, famous and an average person with no fame, married or single. 

He had just gotten back with his ex-wife to start life over with their two children. She came home and found he had hung himself. Where do I find the correct words to explain the pain deep within families who have lost loved ones to this cruel and heartless demon? Only the ones who have lived through the fear, confusion, breakdowns, and abuse, know what I am talking about with this kind of tragedy. You can feel sad and sorry for families, but until, you walk in our shoes, you will not share in our emotions and stories. 

This poor man who had been fighting to get his life back to normal must have felt hopeless, worthless, and gave up on ever living a life without a struggle with addiction. The news brought me right back tlosing Richie and Lori to their addiction. 

They didn’t commit suicide like him, but everyone seems to have a different reason for turning to alcohol, drugs, or prescription pills to handle their problems. No one wants to come out of the closet and say, “I need help.” No one wants to bring up the past with some tragedy that happened in their life to only reopen it again with the pain, not knowing what did or didn’t happen to their young memories. 

There are many catastrophes that happen to an alcoholic or drug user that maybe the parents, siblings, or friends can’t understand why the addicted can’t “get over” something in the past when something happens to them holding them back from getting on with their life without using. 

To many struggle with a death of a parent or close friend, being forced into an abortion, being beaten by a child, listening to parents fight, seeing a parent or someone close to you coming home in blackouts causing the fear, confusion, and violence in the family behind closed doors can be devastating to the child who can’t defend themselves or find security within the family. They grow up with no feeling of love.

Remember how they were treated as a child in life or their teenage years.  These events, mold them into what and who they become later in life. Not talking about the actions with substance abusers, only makes them do the same to their families and generation.  

Richie and Lori died of cirrhosis of the liver. That is a horrible way to die. Richie and Lori had IV’s in both arms, swollen stomachs like pregnant women, their skin and whites to their eyes had turned yellow and their organs slowly shut down. Richie went into a coma and died after 3 weeks in the hospital, and Lori’s doctors from Charlton Memorial in Fall River did a procedure twice to tie tiny elastic bands around her veins in her esophagus. She also lived for three weeks, had a hemorrhage in her rectum, and went into a coma.  She was put on life-support. 

Two days later, we had to say goodbye and let her go home to God.  I heard Lori take her first cry at birth and her last breath on this earth shutting down the life support machine.  This is the hardest decision in this world is to let a loved one die by shutting this device off.

You always live with the fear that if you had waited a little longer, they might have come out of the coma.  I wished God had taken her the three weeks earlier than to live on the hope that she would live, instead of shutting a machine off only to watch her heart rate slow down to a stop.  It makes you feel like you ended her life.  This is alcoholism. 

I remember Dr. Phil’s remark to the woman on his show.  “You realize you’re not going into rehabilitation for a day, week or a month.  It’s until! There is the answer.  Until you are dried-out, can make healthy decisions with your life, and face the deep-rooted problems that are eating away at you.  Only then, you may have a chance for survival. 

Who and what keeps the addicted active?  I saw on television, a football player who had been an alcoholic and addict but recovered.  His desire was to help young kids.  He made a remark to them that made me stop what I was doing. “Show me your friends, and I’ll show you your future!” Think about it.  When they get out of rehab, they run to the same friends doing the same abuse, at the same location.  They meet with the same drug dealers.

Years ago, our kids were street smart.  Today, we are not fact smart.  Our education has to start at the grammar school level.  Our children are not as innocent to things happening in their neighborhood as you think.  In my book What is and isn’t Working for the Alcoholic and Drug Addict, two contributors admitted to trying their first drink at five years old and the other at seven. 

This is why I believe we need a daily class on substance abuse with grammar age children.  By that age, our sons and daughters are mixing in with others who are looking for ways to get their thrills and they look up to the older kids.  Until they have an education these kids have no future if they continue and face death if they don’t stop.  We have to show our children the facts about the high death-rate with alcohol and drug abuse.  Doctors have to stop refilling pain pills.  They don’t take a second glance at what might be going on with the patient.  I blame them with the same actions that family do…doctors are great enablers.  Filling prescription drugs over and over makes them as responsible with their death as the pill they are taking.

Health insurance companies have to make a change in today’s life covering the cost for long term recovery programs.  They need to face the reality that substance abusers need at least a year or longer in a recovery program without coming out until their time is up with more professional help when they do.  In my past life watching Richie and Lori, I came to the conclusion, it’s not counselors substance abusers need but psychiatrist.  

Addicts have to take their own responsibility with the years of using.  They have to get real with the fact, you can’t get dry and then return to the same friends who use or the same corner to get those drug. You have to have no doubt in your mind that this continued action is going to kill you.  Not maybe, but when. 

To the school systems and families, start today teaching our children about alcohol abuse and drug use.  Do we need to put fear into them………..in my opinion, YES.  It can save their life.

 

Interview with Alberta Sequeira

       Official Apex Reviews

Interviewed Alberta Sequeira on her published book, What Is and Isn't Working for the Alcoholic and Addict: In Their Own Words.

Thanks for joining us for this interview, Alberta. We're looking forward to sharing more about your book and other efforts with our readers.

 

What inspired you to compile this rather eye-opening treatise on the lives of addicts in recovery?

My writing on addiction started from the tragedy of losing my husband, Richard Lopes and my daughter, Lori (Lopes) Cahill from North Dighton, Massachusetts from their own alcohol abuse. I wrote my books because I felt there was something important to share with substance abusers and their families. Alcohol and drug abuse are so out-of-control that even the professionals are having a hard time trying to find ways to stop the yearly death-rate from climbing. I feel that adults and our children have lost their way in learning how to handle their pain and separating what they think is fun from what may kill them.

I had already published Someone Stop This Merry-Go-Round: An Alcoholic Family in Crisis, which is about my young marriage to Richard, our ups and downs with his drinking, the confusion, fear and abuse behind closed doors, the enabling, and the effect on our two daughters, Debbie and Lori. Richie died in 1985 in the VA Hospital in Providence, Rhode Island at forty-five years of age from his drinking since his teenage years. His mother, sister, brother, daughter, niece, and nephews drank, along with past relatives. 

After losing Lori in 2006 in the Charlton Memorial Hospital in Fall River, Massachusetts at thirty-nine from the same disease, I wrote the sequel Please, God, Not Two: This Killer Called Alcoholism. I talk about Lori’s three alcoholic rehab stays and her struggle to reach sobriety. She had been admitted once to the Butler Hospital in Providence, Rhode Island and twice to Gosnold Rehabilitation Center in Falmouth, Massachusetts.  

They are open books on the reality of what happens to each individual in a family with an abusive drinker. I write about my situations with mistakes and the missed opportunities that would have been handled differently today. I could have named the books What not to do with Alcohol Abuse. I even added my talks to addicts at halfway homes, rehabs and court-ordered programs in the sequel. They are books of lessons more than being memoirs.

After Lori’s death, I started to wonder why some alcoholics and drug users recover and put their lives together while others die from this horrible, worldwide problem. What gives them the physical and mental strength to fight this battle and come out winning? These questions and the heartbreak of losing two loved ones from alcohol addiction encouraged What is and isn’t Working for the Alcoholic and Addict: In Their Own Words. I thought if I had these questions then other families did, too. Richie and Lori never opened up about their emotions or needs. I wanted to learn what addicts go through that I missed. I came from a very close and loving family and had no education or knowledge about substance abuse.

Was it difficult for you to gather together the 34 different contributors to the volume?

I realized that the only way to get the answers to my questions about the alcoholics emotions was to go directly to the source; the alcoholics and drug addicts. Who would know more than the ones who are living the life of addiction? I placed an ad online in Reporter Connection and asked if anyone was willing to tell their private stories with their own struggle overcoming their substance abuse for my book I was writing. I had to turn people away with so much response. Thirty-four substance abusers from all walks in life from the United States and Canada gave their testimonies. I left nothing out from their stories or changed a word. These are their stories. 

Were any of the contributors reluctant to share the deeper, more personal details of their lives and addictions on a public stage?

They were excited to share their battle with addiction and wanted to get a message to doctors, counselors, family members, and society to learn, not only what the addict is looking for with support to help them through their recovery, but new ways to help the addicted. Many said telling their story was a healing process for them. A few didn’t want to give their names but told where they lived. Most were direct with their names and job titles. Their stories start from as young as five years old to their present life. They didn’t hide anything with the fact that their life had been turned upside down from their drinking, what they lost, and spoke about other relatives that died from their addiction. 

How have readers reacted to the book thus far?

After reading each contributor’s story, a lot of readers realized that childhood emotional wounds mold us into what we became in adulthood, especially with living in an alcoholic family, denial, enabling, and the life we considered to be normal to us at the time. 

One girl wrote a review on Amazon, “I have learned a lot from family and friends who are in recovery and this book took it one level deeper. The stories are raw, honest and heartfelt from the people who lived through the pain and came out on the other side. I would recommend this book to family members or friends who want to know how an addict/alcoholic thinks. It's also could be a good way to open a conversation with a loved one who is struggling to come to grips with whether they have a problem. We all want to know the right way to handle things and I think Alberta's book gives us insight that there is no “right" answer that applies to every addict. Bravo to the folks telling their stories!”

John Daubney, a contributor wrote: 

“Having the addicts tell what worked for them and didn’t would be a most helpful addition to the literature on the subject of addiction and recovery.” 

Is there a central message you'd like readers to take away from the book?

Often people want to debate with me on whether addiction is hereditary, a disease, or a choice. They are all right in my eyes. Each addict has their own reason why they went down the path of drinking or taking drugs. With Richard’s family history, a lot of them over-drank and still are to the point of being alcoholics. Others start from following the crowd, like college kids or younger, thinking everyone is cool and “What’s the harm, everyone is doing it? No big deal!” They truly believe that they can stop anytime. The last reason, which I consider to be the number one, is that the person is trying to hide a horrible event from the past that devastated them and they can’t deal with the problem or can’t find the strength to get professional help. In my opinion, doctors and counselor should look more into “why” a person is using more than the action of drinking or using drugs.  

I want readers to know that What is and isn’t Working for the Alcoholic and Addict is not only for substance abusers but for family members to learn how to help the alcoholic and what not to do; an example, innocently, our enabling brings them deeper into their addiction. We as a family live in denial as much as the user. The contributors to this book are trying to tell us what they need to recover. 

My greatest achievement with this book would be to see the interest to add it to any educational programs in libraries, school programs, or sitting on the bookshelves in all bookstores. It’s a book for the whole family. This book was published by me, but the contributors are the ones trying to save lives who are connected to alcohol and drug addiction. 

Family members reach the point of being emotionally and physically drained trying to help the alcoholic. I had a small breakdown from the years of fighting to control Richie’s drinking. I pushed my body and mind beyond what it could take instead of realizing that the addict has to help themselves. We can only love and support them. 

Please share more with our readers about your other writings.

I had dreams of traveling to tropical islands during my retirement, but God had other plans for me. As I mentioned, I became a writer from the tragedy in my life.

My writing started with my father’s death in 1990 when he died of cancer. I was going to write a book for my family so I could leave his military history to all our generations. Albert L. Gramm was a Brigadier General in the Army and was one of the commanding officers of the 26th Yankee Division during WWII and fought in Metz, Lorraine and the famous Battle of the Bulge. To get information on his life, I went to the Yankee Doings Magazine and asked if anyone knew him. I received personal calls, pictures, emails, and letters from his fellow servicemen. One man sent me the full bio of his life during WWII. 

During my father’s cancer, he wanted to go to Medjugorje in Bosnia because of the miracles happening there since 1981 with six visionaries having ten secrets given to them on a daily basis, and up to this day, from The Blessed Mother that will be revealed to the world when they all get all of them. There are two visionaries left to get one more secret. One by one, a priest will read them. 

I took the ten-day pilgrimage for my father after his death and my life changed forever being in the visionary’s company while they had apparitions with Our Lady. I believe that trip helped me deal with the loss of Lori. 

That's how my first book A Spiritual Renewal: A Journey to Medjugorje got in the works. I added the miracles that happened to me that got me to this tiny, remote village to the book along with my relationship with my father. 

The other two memoirs, Someone Stop This Merry-Go-Round: An Alcoholic Family in Crisis and the sequel, Please, God, Not Two: This Killer Called Alcoholism, on alcohol abuse in our family followed. I have completed my personal stories about my life with pain and finding my way back in life.

In addition to being an author, you're also an experienced director, producer, and Co-host to a cable TV show as well as a continuing educational instructor. Please share more with our readers about your endeavors in those fields.

My other titles came from becoming a co-founder with three other authors and named our group Authors Without Borders (www.awb6.com). We discovered that it cost us less dividing the expense with festivals or other events. We co-authored with our first book Loose Ends. It is a book of diverse collections of intriguing and insightful short stories, poems, and book excerpts that we hope will quench a reader’s thirst and captivate their imagination and emotions.  The four of us are more than authors. Our backgrounds would amaze readers. We also teach at colleges, libraries and other locations with writing, talks, poetry reading or book signings. 

We then went to a class at the NBTV-95 Cable Show in New Bedford, Massachusetts to learn how to have a cable show and developed Authors Without Borders Presents. It was fun learning to run the cameras and direct the program. We interview other writers, authors, managers of bookstores, poets, and publishers. We are hoping people who are interested in learning what faces them in the publishing world would have the desire to watch and learn what others go through to help them. One of our members, Willie Pleasants, has her own cable show called Willie’s Web out of Boston, Massachusetts with the Boston Neighborhood Network. We interview authors in that area on her show. People can become Associated Members on our site and we will give them an interview and a spot on our website. They can email us at [email protected]

As for my continuing education as an instructor, I listened to the telephone workshop programs for free with Steve Harrison, and he had someone explain the difference with a poor author and a rich one. The poor one is happy with just selling books at bookstores, while the rich one looks for ways to grow with their hidden talent, so I developed three-three hour workshops: “Bring Your Manuscript to Publication”,   “How to Self-Publish Your Own Book with Create Space,” and Writing Memoirs. 

I took my pain from my husband and daughter’s loss and became a Motivational Speaker on Alcohol and Drug Abuse and go wherever I get invited to talk. It’s hard to believe that I would never talk in front of people.

What's next for you?

I am now having fun with working on my first fictional The Rusty Years; The Remembrance of Being Young. Hopefully, it will be completed next year. Right now The Wild Rose Press requested a query letter from me. I want my followers and readers to see a lighter side of me. No more memoirs. My personal life is out there for the world to see. 

I am open to speaking on the topic of “The Effect of Alcoholism on the Whole Family” or “My Spiritual Change Within” from my trip to Medjugorje if someone sends for a quote. 

Willie Pleasants is trying to give me the courage to open my own cable show on the topic of addiction. I just edited my first standalone video on the cable show due out soon. Something I will be thinking about in the future.

How can our readers learn more about you and your ongoing efforts?

I have a lot of articles on the Internet once you key my name in to find anything about me. Or you can go to my blog on WordPress titled “Choices” at www.albertasequeira.wordpress.com. My blog for writers and authors is www.albertasequeira.org.

How can they contact you directly?

Send me an email at [email protected], and I’ll be happy to reply back. I love to hear from people.

Any final thoughts you'd like to share?

Never give up on wanting to write. We all have a story hidden in us. You may think no one would be interested, but write for you. Don’t write what you think people want to read but send a message to them that will help in their life with stress and struggles with problems. Send something funny in a fictional book. We all need a laugh in the terrible news around the world.  If you talk about what you know during a presentation or at a book signing, readers will want to buy your book(s). Writing has to be fun, not boring or a chore. Take a day off from the computer if you are forcing yourself to write. 

Where can readers find your books?

They can go directly to www.amazon.com/author/albertasequeira and all my published paperback and Kindle books will show up. 

Thanks again, Alberta, and best of continued success to you in all your endeavors!

Alberta Sequeira's interviews with Authors on the NBTV-95 Cable TV Show

 

Alberta

Being an author, I realize the honor and opportunity of being on a cable television show to help get other authors, publishers, bookstores or artist noticed with your published books or your other talents.

Since I’ve become a producer, director, and co-host to the NBTV-95 Cable TV Station in New Bedford, Massachusetts, I’ve been thrilled to interview people who talk about their struggles getting to the top. This gives them time on the air and the half-hour opens doors for me to learn about others trying to fit into the world of publishing.

Each month, I enjoy asking a person to be my guest on the cable show. Check our scheduling at http://www.newbedfordma.gov/CableAccess/Channel%2095/ProgramSchedule.html

Tune in and hear the pros and cons of others who got published. What roadblocks did they face? We want the listeners to learn from all our mistakes. We’re listed under Authors Without Borders (www.awb6.com).

The handsome man running the camera is my husband, Al Sequeira. He helps when our other stagehands are tied-up with other events. Doesn’t he look like a natural?

Al at NBTV-95

Interviews by Alberta Sequeira, Host of the NBTV-95 Cable TV
Welcome to the official web site of NBTV95, Public Access Television in New Bedford, Massachusetts. Author and Speaker, Alberta Sequeira, is a co-host to this network. Check their listing on the website below for all their upcoming shows. http://www.newbedford-ma.gov/CableAccess/Channel%2095/WelcomeNBTV95.html

Steven Manchester: Author, Poet, Author, poet, and speaker, Steven Manchester, and his seven-year-old daughter, Isabella, where interviewed with his new children’s book Bella Bean. Steven has written 16 books (with 12 in publication) and has contributed to more than three dozen international anthologies. When not spending time with his children, writing, teaching, or promoting his published books/films, this Massachusetts author speaks publicly to troubled children through the Straight Ahead Program. Visit his website at http://www.stevenmanchester.com.

steven-manchester

To view all his numerous books, go to his personal page at: http://www.amazon.com/Steven-Manchester/e/B001K8Y14C/ref=sr_tc_2_0?qid=1402670237&sr=1-2-ent

Dr. Julia

Julia Schlum Eldelman, MD

Alberta Sequeira interviewed Julia Schlam Edelman, M.D. with her book Menopause Matters. Dr. Edelman, M.D., F.A.C.O.G., is a board-certified gynecologist, a certified menopause clinician, a Clinical Instructor at Harvard Medical School, an Adjunct Clinical Instructor at Brown Medical School and a Fellow of the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists. She is in private practice in Massachusetts. Menopause Matters covers the full spectrum of topics of vital interest to perimenopausal and postmenopausal women. Visit her website at http://www.juliaedelmanmd.com. Her book is available on Amazon.

Stephanie Blackman

Stephanie Blackman, Publisher
 
Interview with Stephanie Blackman, publisher of Riverhaven Books.

Stephanie Blackman has always enjoyed reading and working with others to improve their writing skills. As an English professor at a local community college, Stephanie has a strong background in composition as well as literature. Riverhaven Books is a perfect fit for her skillset. Stephanie graduated from Eastern Nazarene College in Quincy, MA, with a double major in English and Secondary Education. She taught at both the junior high and high school level for several years. Now she is married and has two boys, ages five and nine. “I live a well-rounded life doing what I love. I spend time with my family, teach literature and writing, and get to read fantastic books and interact with wonderful authors. I look forward to watching Riverhaven Books continue to grow.” ~Stephanie

Let me first clarify that Riverhaven is not a vanity press; not every work meets the standards of Riverhaven Books. However, publication through Riverhaven is not a requirement in order to employ our other services. You provide a manuscript, and we’ll work with you to edit it, format it, and design the final product. Hands-on is the philosophy of Riverhaven. Our attention to detail, while maintaining affordability, is what sets us apart. 

Because we are a small and newer company, writers maintain control over the number of books printed and are responsible for that payment. In turn, 

Riverhaven does not take any of the profits from the sale of those books. It’s a mutually beneficial relationship. And we look forward to working with you. To book stores looking to purchase copies of our titles, please know that we offer a standard 40% discount. Riverhaven also has a return policy. Please contact Stephanie at [email protected] for more information.

Visit her website: www.riverhavenbooks.com

Tom Cirignano

Tom M. Cirignano, Author

Interview with author, Thomas M. Cirignano, at the NBTV-95 Cable Station on the Authors Without Borders Presents show.

Tom owned and operated an auto repair shop on East Third Street in the heart of South Boston. He experienced, first hand, those history-making years when crime and violence ruled the streets. Southie was in turmoil, with both the Irish and Italian Mobs vying for complete control.

Thomas Cirignano compiled his notes and memories of South Boston to create his first book, The Constant Outsider, Memoirs of a South Boston Mechanic. His experiences were anything but typical or ordinary, surreal by most people’s standards.

His second book is a fictional adaptation of the first. Within67 Cents: Creation of a Killer, Tom takes a different path than he did in real life, saying “Yes” to each and every offer that was made to him by the Mob. Tom stated, “I’ve always wondered what my life would have been like if I had become one of them.”

Visit Tom’s website at http://www.theconstantoutsider.com.

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Bob Branco, Author

Alberta Sequeira, the host to the NBTV-95 Cable TV Show, interviewed Bob Branco from New Bedford, Massachusetts.

This book is about eight of the most important years of Mr. Branco’s life. Just like anyone else between the ages of 12 and 19, he had a lot to learn about growing up. However, contrary to what most pre-teens and teens experience, he lived those eight years at Perkins School for the Blind, in Watertown, Massachusetts; 65 miles from his home. ​In the book, Mr. Branco talks about their academic classes, the teachers and other adults at the school; the many kids who became his friends and others who made friendship impossible, along with the several sports they pursued. There were the rules they had to follow and how radically they were sometimes broken. You’ll read some of the fascinating field trips that were taken and new technology that was explored. 

Learn how the school prepared the students for independent living, and much more. As you will read, there were plenty of both good and bad times. His story puts a unique perspective on what it’s like for any teenager, blind or sighted, to live away from home for eight years and hopes that the sighted, as well as the blind, will enjoy and appreciate his story.

Bob’s book Home Away from Home can be purchased at http://www.amazon.com

Author, Julie Broomall

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     Julia Broomall was born in Pennsylvania but has lived all over the country. She has three children and seven grandchildren, one of whom has been labeled “special needs”.
     Julia is a holistic healer, using Reiki, Theta Therapy, Quantum Touch, Intuitive Anatomy, Angel Cards, and Spirit Communications to help her clients. 

     Before becoming a holistic healer, she worked as a substitute teacher and an arts and crafts teacher. The author also worked for a toy manufacturer as a receptionist, clerk, Human Resource Director, and trade show office manager. 

Julia now resides on Florida’s West Coast where she is just turning a new page in her life as a successful published author. The Emperor’s New Throne is the first book in the series The Whole Story. It’s a subtle, moral tale about an incident that changes not only the king’s physical abilities​ but also his mental outlook and that of his kingdom. 

The story helps all children and families alike to understand that those being labeled as “special needs” or “handicapped” are just as capable and whole as everyone else in their own way​ and that every one of us has a special talent. Julie is in the process of having the second book published by Sweet Dreams Publishing of Mass in a few months. All the books will tell how disability is something a person can overcome. 

These books are a great buy for children with parents coming home from the war with injuries. You can purchase The Emperor’s New Throne on Amazon http://www.amazon.com/Emperors-Throne-%2522The-Story%2522-Childrens/dp/0982925611/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1371211856&sr=1-1&keywords=Julia+broomall

Visit Julie’s website at www.juliabroomall.com or email her at [email protected].

Radio Host: Phil Paleologos

Phil Paleologos

TALKERS MAGAZINE named Phil as one of the nation’s Top 100 Talk Show Hosts! 45-year​ veteran broadcaster, Phil Paleologos began his passion in radio at KZNG in Hot Springs, Arkansas, as a 16-year-old​ who convinced management to let him host a one hour show about local high school events, and since then, he hasn’t stopped talking! 

Serving as both a television news anchor and DJ in Charlottesville, VA, Phil learned his craft well in the smaller markets and then set his sights on Boston as the afternoon drive-time host on WEZE, as ‘The Mayor of Park Square’. In the late 1970s​, Phil became the morning guy at WNBH and later, an afternoon host at WBSM, both in New Bedford, MA. In the mid-1990s​, the TALK-AMERICA RADIO NETWORK syndicated Phil’s morning show, American Breakfast, that originated in his authentic stainless steel diner, that he and his wife own! 

The show was carried coast-to-coast, in many major city markets, until he signed off with great ratings. Since then, Phil has been very active in helping non-profit organizations raise awareness and revenues and owning and operating the Shawmut Diner in New Bedford, MA, with his wife, Celeste. 

Tune into “More Than Just Talk” with Phil every weekday morning from 10am to 1pm. Read More: Phil Paleologos – WBSM – New Bedford’s Local Source For News, Talk, and Sports! http://wbsm.com/author/wbsmphil/?trackback=tsmclip

Phil is now the host to the WBSM 1420Am station out of Fairhaven.  Turn in at 10 am to listen to him.

 

If any author wants to be interviewed contact Alberta by email. If you are a writer just starting out or have not been published yet, I would love to hear about your struggles trying to get your work in print. 

The interview tapes of the show are available for $20.00. 

Alberta Sequeira
[email protected]
Order books directly at www.amazon.com/author/albertasequeira ​

Intervention

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Why do we have to wait for an intervention to try to reach our loved one fighting addiction? I wish I had thought of this before I lost my husband and daughter.

This may sound like a crazy action but think about it. When you talk to them they don’t want to hear what you're saying. They don’t want your advice. They block you out. First of all, don’t try to make any connection when they're in a fog from using. 

If you send them a loving letter, they will read it. Maybe they won’t like what you’re saying, but they won’t be blocking you out. It gives you time to “think” about what you want to say.

Never knock them with their behavior or their personality. Don’t throw blame at them. They need to hear you love them and that you are scared to death with losing them. Don’t say you love them, show it.

One night, I received a call that my daughter had been staying at a friend’s home, and they wanted her out. She was not paying rent. At that time, it had been months that we had no idea where she was or in what condition. 

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We went to bring her home. It was a comfort mentally knowing she was with us. I sat on the couch and she put the back of her head against my chest. I ran my fingers through her matted hair. I wrapped my arms around her. It gave Lori such solace her remark to me was, “You don’t know how good it feels with your arms around me.” 

I have never forgotten those words. You see, Lori died eight months later at thirty-nine and I never held her in my arms again. That moment was embedded in my mind and heart. It showed how much she needed her family as she hopped from one place to another alone.  So, so many things I would have done differently.  As parents, we miss the way to handle the alcoholics. What do they want, need, or desire? 

I wanted the answers. Thirty-nine alcoholics, drug, and prescription users contributed their stories to me from the USA and Canada. They were asked: “Are there other family members who have an addiction, what age did you start, why did you, how did you recover, what do you need to help you desire the want for professional help? What do you think works and doesn’t in our recovery programs?" Many more questions. 

These answers from all show the family, counselor, doctors, and society what they need. This is a book for all, not just the addicted. Here is a book you can read and then leave on a table for your loved one to read at their want. The contributors talk to them. You don’t have to.  It is a great educational book for schools, libraries, and rehabilitation centers.  One person told me they read it as a family and discussed every separate story and how it affected them.  

The book is What is and isn’t Working for the Alcoholic and Addict; In Their Own Words. Your childhood life is what defines you as an adult. It can be purchased at www.amazon.com/author/albertasequeira.

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Get out of denial

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How many of you look at beer as a non-alcoholic drink?  You’re not an alcoholic if you drink beer and stay away from hard liquor.  False! Open your eyes. Beer is liquor that can help you become an alcoholic. 

How many think, if you can drink and get up for work the day after heavy binge drinking, that you’re not an alcoholic? You can hold down your job. You meet your bills. 

My husband, Richard Lopes of North Dighton, Massachusetts had his own television repair shop down our cellar. His business was successful. People knew him in town and his family was well respected. 

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Richie’s family had a history of alcoholics. Something I learned after our marriage.

Before opening his own business, he had worked for a television company in Somerset, Massachusetts. A bar was next door named the Elbow Room. A perfect setting for an alcoholic or one to be made. Slowly and repeatedly, he and his boss went for a drink after work. This was a daily routine Monday through Friday. 

I could push the button to a recording machine hearing, “I’ll be late for supper. We have to discuss some problems we had today. Don’t wait for me. I’ll eat when I get home.” Many nights my daughters and I eat alone. 

I spent my time looking up at the clock around 5 pm. I knot started in my stomach with no arrival for supper. What condition and time would he be coming home? We had two beautiful daughters, Debbie and Lori. They were four years apart and this started when Debbie was around six years old. Lori had been two. 

When Saturday and Sunday arrived, with liquor in the house, he never drank. In time, Saturday became a weekday with work. He never drank or over-drank visiting family. He was always stone sober. Monday would roll around and again, the drinking started. The hours coming home got later and later.

Because of this so-called “control ”, Richie believed he had no problem. Allowing this to go on with making no demands, only made our household become toxic. His light, happy drinking mood switched to blackouts. I was abused and our daughters saw things that children should not witness. Shame on me. I put him before our children. I should have been protecting them.  I became a huge enabler.

Richie died in 1985 at forty-five years of age at the VA Hospital in Providence, Rhode Island. I didn’t make him an alcoholic but I added to the problem with putting blinders on each day. It brought him deeper into his addiction.

I wrote about the reality of our lives, with nothing held back, in Someone Stop This Merry-Go-Round; An Alcoholic Family in Crisis. Learn from my mistakes and do something about bad drinking behavior as soon as it starts. When is it a problem? When it causes problems. 

The books can be bought at www.amazon.com/author/albertasequeira. The sequel with our daughter, Lori Cahill, and her use of alcohol and drugs brought her death at thirty-nine years of age is in Please, God, Not Two; This Killer Called Alcoholism. It's at the same link. 

Richie and Lori have been buried together at the St. Patrick Cemetery in Somerset, Massachusetts. Don’t wait for that to happen to your loved one.  Need a speaker for your event?  Email me at [email protected]

 

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