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"Free" Upcoming Writer's Workshop in September 2018

Authors Without Borders would like to send an invitation to all writers, authors, and all of you who want to write but have no idea where to start. It's a relaxed, mingle-in event to just chat and find out the roadblocks to our writing. A chance to meet other authors so all of us can throw ideas around on helping each other write, promote, market our work, and getting published. We have two websites: and Email us at [email protected].

Alberta Sequeira:




Meet & Greet
For All Writers
Free Event at Braintree’s Thayer Library

Don’t know how to start your writing project? Have you already started but it’s not working out the way you want? Have you finished a final draft but can’t find an agent or publisher? Or wondering how to market your published work? Would you like advice and support from experienced writers? Or simply chat with others who share your interests, frustrations, obstacles, and successes?
To help with these issues, on Saturday, September 29th, from 11 am to 2 pm, Authors Without Borders is partnering with the Thayer Public Library to hold a free, public Meet & Greet— for writers who are published, unpublished, aspiring, or just interested in learning more. The library is located at 798 Washington St., Braintree, MA 02184. 

The Thayer Library is providing free refreshments for this meeting. To register (so the Library can estimate the amount of refreshments needed), please contact Laurie Cavanaugh, Circulation Librarian at (781) 848-0405. The library’s website is




The Effect of Alcoholism on the Whole Family


I wanted to open up to family members on my posts this week. The alcoholic and drug users are definitely sick, but we forget, that the family members may be more dysfunctional than the addict. Why? In my opinion, we are sober and remember all the things said to us, the mental and phycial abuse, the pain watching our loved ones bring themselves closer to death, we are the ones watching them as they are hooked-up to machines in the hospital trying to keep their bodies alive with hope that they will pull through when their organs are shutting down. 

The users are in another world and don’t remember anything the next day, but we do. These topics and details are not to make the alcoholic or drug user feel guilty. Far from it. It’s to pull us together as a family unit to see what happens behind closed doors with all of us. 

I, and my beloved family members, did exactly that with my husband, Richie, and my daughter, Lori, as they lay dying in hospitals. We watched as the demon pulled our hearts out of us, and grabbed so tightly to our loved ones that we had no strength or control to pull them apart. Richie died at 45 years of age at the VA Hospital in Providence, Rhode Island after one day being in a coma after we hung onto two weeks of him trying to recover. 

The sad part is when you see them dying in a hospital bed swearing to NO MORE DRINKING. THIS IS IT! They mean it at the time and you’re crushed it’s too late.

We suffered more with Lori being 3 weeks in a hospital, when the cycle kept going seeing her coming back to herself to only keep watching her vital signs going down. Watching no more urine dripping in the container at the bottom of her bed because her kidneys shut down. Because of that, the fluids they were giving her through IV’s had nowhere to go, so it went into her skin tissues to make her bloat to not recognizing her. Lori died at 39 years of age at the Charlton Memorial Hospital in Fall River, Massachusetts. She was laid to rest with Richie at the St. Patrick Cemetery in Somerset, Massachusetts. There are no words to describe this pain and helplessness. Only the people who have experienced the loss can understand. 

I thought I understood this disease when I read about a death from addiction that a family was suffering through, seeing it on television, hearing it from a friend, or reading about it in the newspaper. Until the disease hits your family member, it’s then that we standup and give attention to this disease that is worldwide. 

Hopefully, an alcoholic, drug user, or prescription users overusing their meds, will read this and face the fact you are loved. You are the ones who have to do the fighting to give your habit up. Family can only love and support you.

As for the dealers of drugs, I pray for you to someday see what you are actually doing ……..for money. You are the demon I speak about who has no heart in them or any emotions of becoming a killer. You are the ones who pass the drugs on to the once happy, loving people, to become rich. Remember one thing, and don’t ignore it; YOU will have one more person to account to for your actions of killing millions of people. It will be at the time of your own death facing God. 

Read about our family with alcohol abuse, reality of it with nothing hidden, the pain and suffering with all of us with my books at

I am available for talks in the area, email me at [email protected]

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Two Associate Members of Authors Without Borders has a New Book!

Since 2007, I have belong to a group of authors, Authors Without Borders (, and our other site There are four co-founders: Pat Perry of Fairhaven, MA, Alberta Sequeira of North Dartmouth, MA; Willie Pleasants of Dorchester, and Joyce Keller Walsh of Lakeville, MA.  If you are writers or authors, men or women, visit our sites above to see how to become associate member for $35 a year.  Also, Now is the time to network for "FREE", yes Free, with our upcoming event advertised on our sites for our yearly Meet and Greet event on September 29, 2018 at the Thayer Library in Braintree, MA from 11am-2pm. Get the information and join other authors to network and see what is and isn't working in the publishing world. Refreshments will be served.  FOR NOW, I want to give our two members a chance to get themselves and their book known. They will also be present at our workshop in Braintree in September ready to autograph their book. 



If I only knew

Authors of the Book:

Diane Ford
Diane Ford

Katharine Gilpin

Did You Hear the News?

We are delighted to share some news with you. Over the past year we have been working on our new collaborative book, If Only I Knew Then What I Know Now, Women’s Stories of Discovery.

We have come together from different backgrounds and experiences to share our deepest secrets and pass along our most poignant teaching moments. If only we knew then what we know now, our lives may have taken a different direction. We stand in unity and in strength to share our ‘aha’ moments, with the hope and belief that in doing so, you may find the courage to share your stories and empower others.

We have put our whole hearts into this project with the intention of providing valuable insight and powerful guidance for women who are looking for ways to express and liberate themselves. It has been an enormously rewarding experience thus far and we will become even stronger, as we bring our stories into the light of day. We are of the collective belief that by baring our souls, we will help other women to bare theirs.

If Only I Knew Then What I Know Now, Women’s Stories of Discovery is a beautifully written collaboration of 42 women’s stories which address the importance of:

· Following Your Heart

· Taking a Stand For Yourself

· Finding Your Voice

· Recognizing Your Beauty and Power

· Honoring Your Intuition

As you embark upon reading the open and honest stories of this book, you will learn that you, too, have a story you are aching to share.

We hope that you will help us make this book a #1 bestseller on Amazon.

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We are grateful for your support.
With heartfelt thanks and appreciation.
Katharine & Diane

Diane Marie Ford, Founder & CEO of Listen To Thyself
Certified Holistic Counselor, Spirit Medium, Author of The Spirits Speak on Success
Intuitive Life Counseling
Accredited by the American Association of Drugless Practitioners

Full Description of Addiction

Final picture for Kindle

by Rosemary Wright
(An Official review of What is and isn’t Working for the Alcoholic and Addict by Alberta Sequeira)

Frankly, I never took the byword that says one should not judge a man until one has walked in his shoes seriously before I read the book, What is an didn’t Working for the Alcoholic and Addict by Alberta H. Sequeira, who lost her husband and daughter due to alcoholism. Consequently, she compiled the stories in this narrative to help liquor and drug dependents, who are in denial, realize that they can be clean. As the title renewal, this nonfiction is about what works and doesn’t work for the addicts in their journey to recovery. This publication includes accounts written by thirty-three, former substance abusers about their personal experiences as users and their steps to restoration. Being inspirational, motivational, and spiritual, this guide has all that is required become substance-free.

Alberta premised the narration with the definition of addiction and referred to the latter as a disease that eats away its victims. She discolored that for sobriety to be attained, an addict should participate in repeated counseling, Alcoholics Anonymous/Narcotics Anonymous meetings, have a change of lifestyle, pray daily, and keep away from drinking and drug-using buddies. In addition, she suggested that the duration of recovery programs should be longer, and the Patient Privacy Law for alcoholics, drug abusers, and persons with mental illness should be modified to allow family members to be involved in the recovery process. In this book, it’s advised that doctors, counselors, and psychiatrists should not dwell on the substance use but should handle the reason for the habituation.

Fascinatingly, this work unveils one story after another narrated by the contributors, among whom are authors, counselors, life coaches, and speakers. Although, some of them are antonymous, a few are from Canada and the others are from various states in America. Some were addicted to only alcohol while the rest of them were hooked on both alcohol and dopes. Well written and narrated in the first person point of view by author and the different narrators, this compilation has the ability to hold a reader spellbound as each page brings out the unspeakable activities in the world of an addict; from the first day of dependency to recovery. At a steady pace, the plot is captivating and interesting, and there are revelations and helpful detains in each tale.

Thoroughly, each narrator describes his first ecstasy induced by spirits/narcotic, further indulgences, family history, why he decided to stop drinking or taking drugs,, his experiences in AA.NA meetings and rehabilitation centers/halfway houses, and what made him pull through. Many of the contributors attribute their improvements to their faith in a “higher Power,” believing in God and surrendering their lives to the Lord, Jesus Christ. From the multiple, personal stories written, I saw that several drinkers and users seek solace in substances mostly because of family and emotional problems. Unwisely, some of them are involved to overcome momentarily their feelings of guilt, physical and emotional abuse, anger, bitterness, low self-esteem, humiliation, and self-pity. As should be expected, a good few of them have boozers and trippers as parents and siblings.

Before reading the stories, I used to hold addicts responsible for their predicaments and insisted that they should suffer the aftermath of their actions, but after I finished readying, my perspective on substance abusers changed because i discovered that most of them did not intentionally choose that lifestyle, but a lot of factors beyond their control prompted them subconsciously to depend on the bottles and ropes. Altogether, the narrative highlights how willingness, clearing away doubts, failure, disappointment, and shame can be essential for the recovery of addicts. Invariable, the contributors admonished relatives to support users with tough love, without being forceful and judgmental. Explored in this narration, are the consequences of addiction such as; loss of jobs and properties, separation from family members and good friends, legal issues, declining health, and death. Most of the stories are kind of similar, but each tale has a unique information to get across to readers. Following the write-ups, at the end of the book are some spiritual and inspiring poems to motivate and direct addicts.

Lastly, this book is one of a kind and carries a global message that will save lots of lives and make our societies better. I recommend this book for addicts, desiring recovery, their family members, doctors, counselors, psychiatrists, and especially for non-using teenagers and adults to dissuade them from getting involved in substance abuse. 

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Enabling behavior is the easiest thing for someone to do for a loved one. I could have received the highest award for doing so because I wanted no conflicts, to have the person mad at me, keeping firm with my rules, and watching a sulking person, to only give into them.

When it comes to the person with a drinking or drug problem, we have to develop the tough-love we hear about so often. If we don’t, we help the addict go deeper into their habit, that can, in the future, kill them. Better to have them hate you than burying them. 

I lost both my husband, Richard, and daughter, Lori, from their addiction to alcohol abuse. My relationship with Richard during his blackouts were frustration, anger, hate, the guilt that his actions had to be from something I had done, or he no longer loved me.

From me not making, and enforcing demands, with what should not have been allowed living together, our family life behind closed doors, was on the path of destruction with mind and body, and our two daughters lived in confusion, fear, watched abuse, and grew up scared with no security. 

Lets understand something that I didn’t, at the time. Don’t stay with a partner because you believe the children need the other parent. No child needs to watch adult behavior at its worse. They grow up following the same path by marrying the same kind of person with substance abuse problems, take the drugs up themselves, and the merry-go-round starts again with their family life when they marry. 

When we enable, we shield our loved one from experiencing the full impact and consequences of their behavior. Enabling is different from helping and supporting in that it allows the enabled person to be irresponsible for whatever they do; getting in a car accident, get arrested, being violent, fights, blackouts, hanging out with the wrong crowd, cause separation from family, constantly asking for money or stealing it, lying, losing their jobs, children, cars, homes, and the list can go on.

Until they come to realize that only they can get sober by themselves, and we can only support them, the cycle will continue, especially, if parents and loved ones, make excuses for them. What we do is make decisions with our hearts and not our brain with reality with a solution. 

Drinking and taking drugs becomes a problem, when it causes problems. Think of what your conflicts are: do they revolve around the time they drink? Are you getting behind paying bills, when you never did? Where is the money going? Who are your child’s friends, where do they go, what do they do? 

Living this kind of life for fourteen years (way beyond reasoning) made me have a small breakdown, because all I did day and night for 24/7 was think of ways to cure Richard. I pushed my mind and body to the point of braking down. If you see no results from demands, separate from that person. People panic thinking the next step is divorce. That happens, if you make it happen, by filing for one. Separation is just that, both going different ways, until you see if changes happen.

God didn’t put us on earth to be abused mentally or physically by someone who doesn’t want to change their destructive behavior. You should not have to sink with that person. You can die tomorrow, and they will continue on their suicide path. We all have choices; the addict and yourself. 

I’m ashamed to say, I took Richard back four times. FOUR TIMES! Love is not going to pull you through this nightmare of substance abuse. When they go too deep, the alcohol or drugs are more important to them than life itself. 

Don’t do what I did….wait fourteen years to end it. By then, all of us suffered, when there was no need for it, when professional help is available for the whole family. End a relationship before you get killed by someone in a rage.

As for handling my daughter’s drinking and taking drugs, believe it or not, none of us knew she had a problem, until she was thirty-seven years old. She had been drinking in her senior year in high school, and I thought she’d outgrow it when she graduated…my blinders were on even after losing Richard at forty-five at the VA Hospital in Providence, Rhode Island from his alcohol abuse. Lori was following the same path. 

Lori died in 2006 at thirty-nine years of age at the Charlton Memorial Hospital in Fall River. She and her father are buried together at the Saint Patrick Cemetery in Somerset, Massachusetts. Don’t think that it will never happen to you.

If something doesn’t feel right, find out what it is; new friends, new attitude, coming home late, wanting fights, losing interest in the family unit, and arguments all from substance abuse. 

If I had taken the seriousness of Lori’s drinking, and her being under eighteen years old, she could have been taken out of school and placed in a rehabilitation center before learning of her addiction in her thirties. She would have had professional help before the demon had a grip on her. 

She entered Butler Hospital in Providence, Rhode Island, and twice at Emerson House in Falmouth, Massachusetts. She just couldn’t understand why she had a problem. Look for depression, which I never saw. Lori felt her father’s death without talking about it, and I forced her into an abortion at seventeen, which she didn’t want. 

Don’t ignore the warning signs!

Alberta Sequeira
Email: [email protected]

How to Write and Get Your Story Out!


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Becoming Writers

How many of you feel like there is a story inside of you that wants to jump out onto pages? That’s a talent. Don’t hide the desire or ignore what you want to accomplish. 

I published three handbooks for those who can’t attend my classes. The first is titled, Bring Your Manuscript to Publication. It is a 3-hour workshop made into a handbook for those writers who can’t afford the time or money to take in workshops. The steps are an easy way to learn. The three handbooks are available at:

All handbooks are $10 and in Kindle. Free through July 2018.

Here is what is covered in Bring Your Manuscript to Publication:
Introduction to Writing/How to develop a Good Story
Taking Breaks/Keeping Receipts
Emails/Writer’s Group
Outlining Your Thoughts
Research/Posting Thoughts, Editing
Outlining Your Story
What is a Hook
How to Open with a Hook
Grammar Problems
Words to Avoid/Your Last Step in Editing
Where to Find Editors/Reference Books
Getting Published
Agent or Publisher
Different Ways to Publish
Becoming Your Own Publisher
E-Books/Query Letter
Sample of Query Letters
Sample of Synopsis
Book Proposal
Book Cover/Title
What Happens after Publishing/Media Kit
Difference Between a Rich and Poor Author/Websites for Authors

My second handbook How to Self-Publish Your Own Book Through CreateSpace is more important now since CreateSpace has stopped all corresponding with authors on the steps to take to get their books into their publication site. Writers are left with paying one of three different companies to help them prepare your manuscript to upload.

My steps will help you understand the language they talk that leaves you confused. It took me four months, with absolute frustration, not knowing one author who used the program. I was completely on my own, even CreateSpace gave me so much help and then held back on important issues. I now have 2 memoirs, 1 Narrative Non-Fiction and the 3 handbooks that I self Published. Why did I go through the stress? I got tired of paying a publisher to print my books and came out with everyone else getting a huge part of my royalties. Here is a handbook to help you take the leap and publish your own book through CreateSpace and come out way ahead. A charge for $6.00 (cost to receive a printed book to evaluate and make corrections before final print), with no hidden costs. Easy steps to follow. The instructions will help you correct mistakes, learn what they mean by embed fonts, hard keys, certain margins; learn the difference between page breaks, section breaks, inserting headers, footer and pages with a lot more.

My last handbook is Writing Memoirs. The hardest to sell, but a great way to share your good or bad experience in life. Leave advise to the world on what saved you or what steps not to take.
Writing memoirs all starts with the desire to share an event in your life. Here are important questions to know: Can you use someone’s name? Can you write by giving yourself another name? This is a handbook taken from my three-hour workshop on teaching memoir writing. Here is what you will learn:

Introduction to Writing Memoirs 
What is a Memoir
Protecting Yourself with a Memoir
If No Permission is Given
Sample of Disclaimer
Posting Thoughts
Using All Your Senses
Point of View
Setting Discipline
Writer’s Groups
Your Thoughts
The Value of an Outline
What is a Hook
How to Open with a Hook
Sample of Hooks
Grammar Problems
Words to Avoid
Your Last Step Editing
Where to Find Editors
Ideas on Memoir Books
Getting Published
Agent or Publisher
Query Letters
How Do I Format a Query Letter
What Makes a Query Letter Successful
How to Write A Query Letter
Sample of Synopsis
Book Proposal
Book Cover/Title
Getting the Cover
Synopsis on the Back Cover
What Happens After Publishing
Media Kit
Difference Between a Rich and Poor Author/Websites for Authors
Website for Authors
Where to Promote

Have a great day!

Alberta Sequeira
Email: [email protected]

I Got Flowers Today

Chris Perry/FaceBook

June 21 at 9:53 PM
I got flowers

I got flowers today. It wasn’t my birthday or any other special day. We had our first argument last night. He said a lot of cruel things that really hurt me. I know he was sorry and didn’t mean the things he said. Because I got flowers today.

I got flowers today. It wasn’t our anniversary or any other special day. Last night, he threw me into a wall and started to choke me. It seemed like a nightmare. I couldn’t believe it was real. I woke up this morning sore and bruised all over. I know he must be sorry Because he sent me flowers today.

I got flowers today. It wasn’t Mother’s Day or any other special day. Last night, he beat me up again. And it was much worse than all other times. If I leave him, what will I do? How will I take care of my kids? What about money? I’m afraid of him and scared to leave. But I know he must be sorry Because he sent me flowers today.

I got flowers today. Today was a very special day. It was the day of my funeral. Last night he finally killed me. He beat me to death.

If only I had gathered enough courage and strength to leave him, I would not have gotten flowers today.

This poem is dedicated to all the victims and survivors of Domestic Violence.
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I had to post this because I’m lucky to be alive myself from years of physical abuse during my ex-husband’s blackouts. I had three serious attacks that I wonder today, not only how did I survive, but how sick I was to stay in the relationship and not have him arrest. STOP thinking, “It can never happen to me!”

My husband was a shy man, who without drinking, was polite and funny. Take this post seriously!!

Alberta Sequeira
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Do you believe in an after life?

Spiritual Renwal

I think with the world we’re living in, we need faith. We should be turning back to God. Our Blessed Mother has said there is a lot of power in prayer. It seems only the friends I have welcome the talk of miracles, and the presence of God in our lives.

When Sheriff Thomas Hodgson interviewed me on his television show (, we talked about my journey to Medjugorje in Bosnia from my book. I thought we’d talk about my visit with the men and women inmates at his jail, but the sheriff believed the spiritual side of the prisoners were extremely important.
     That’s why I wrote A Spiritual Renewal: A Journey to Medjugorje. It has a lot about my relationship with my father and his life when he was one of commanders of the 26th Yankee Division during WWII. It’s a miracle when we open our hearts to let Our Lord in, and we come to realize messages He is sending down to us. Here are a few reviews of the book.

Amazon Customer
Feeling stuck? Read Alberta Sequeira’s book: A Spiritual Renewal / A Journey to Medjugorje to get back on your path.

Though I no longer adhere to what I call organized church religion, I was deeply moved by the sincerity of Alberta Sequeira’s book: A Spiritual Renewal / A Journey to Medjugorje. She quickly drew me into being part of her journey. I had read about the visionaries some years back. I do believe in miracles and Spirit. God has always been with me… and I with Him.
Her book also encompasses her experiences being married to a man afflicted with alcoholism – the difficulties of divorce and raising children alone. It was a time when she was without faith. How wonderful that she discovered that God was in her corner all along. She had just forgotten to ask for healing.
After her father passed away in 1990, she realized how little she knew about his life outside the home. He was Brigadier General Albert L. Gramm, Sr. You will want to start a journal about those you love. So many questions go unanswered. Still, she searched and filled in some of the gaps.
So much of the content of this book relates to me. I highly recommend this openly honest account of Alberta’s journey back to faith.
Janice Clark, retired teacher, writer of children’s stories


Thomas Cirignano, author and speaker

For me, reading A Spiritual Renewal was truly uplifting and inspiring. To use those words to honestly characterize a literary work these days is quite rare. It was refreshing that there was no sensationalism to be found, just the author’s heartfelt description of events.
     Coincidentally, my reading of Alberta Sequeira’s story was well timed. It was a point in my life when I needed to be reminded that faith is often renewed when we most need it. Does that happen because we, as human beings, search for answers during times of loss and chaos, or does a Higher Power search us out when we truly need it? I’m not overly religious. In fact, I’ve been called “Doubting Thomas” more times than I care to admit. But even I could relate to this story because special coincidences, which most people would consider miracles, have happened to me, just as they did in this author’s life. It was good to read that I am not unique in that respect.
     One of the biggest questions we all ponder in life is whether loved ones who have passed on, or other heavenly entities, such as God, The Blessed Mother, or angels actually do watch over us during our lifetimes. All I can say is, read A Spiritual Renewal, look back at the events of your own life, and then decide for yourself.


This book is a heart-felt, moving memoir of the author’s father and her journey to find inner peace and renewal of life. She shares her life story from a child to the present with beautiful photos included throughout the book. She shares her struggles and pain when her father gets diagnosed with cancer and has to say goodbye. Her hunger for God leads her to a journey to Medjugorje that brings the inner healing and peace that she was looking for.
Alberta Sequeira
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Saying Goodbye is Painful

Albert in blechers

I keep this picture of my twin brother, Albert, up on my website, because on June 4, 2018, he had his first anniversary of his death from lung cancer. He was addicted to cigarettes and couldn’t give them up.

He was cremated in Boynton Beach, Florida where he lived. Our modern world has turned a lot of people to cremation. My husband and I are signed up at a funeral home for the same instructions. Why? Paying $2,000-$3,000 is more comfortable than $14,000 at least, for a wake, funeral, and Mass. 

The sad part of cremation is not having a closure with saying goodbye. Since he died in Florida with no services, my heart still wants to believe he is still alive. 

He was diagnosed with lung cancer in 1990 and was told to have his voice box taken out. A Japanese doctor from Mass General Hospital in Boston, Massachusetts tried a new radiation treatment on him. He was the first person to use this.  He was cured completely and doctors from Japan came over to the USA to see the treatment and examine my brother.

How many people fighting cancer would love this gift from God of being healed? He could eat or do anything he wanted but stay away from cigarettes. No, he started right up after he was cured. Probably thinking he had new lungs. Like an alcoholic being blessed with getting a new liver. Some pick up where they left off because the liver was clean with no disease and figure they have years to drink again.

Albert lived another 27 years, but let me say, his last 5-10 were not healthy. His voice went deep, raspy, and was extremely hard to understand his speech. Family begged him to stop, but he saw no problem. He claimed his faded voice was from the radiation treatment, not the past cancer. 

Like parents and family members of substance abusers, we had to sit back and watch my brother’s life slowly leaving him, while he continued his addiction, in-between him feeling like we were picking on him.

We, who have no addictions ask, “Why can’t they stop?” We can’t understand what they are mentally and physically going through. That’s why people start their addictions because they feel they can stop anytime, or the substance will not kill them. 

I wanted so badly to know when Albert was passing so I could of held his hand leaving this world as we came into it together. 

Be at peace. We miss you.


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Alberta Sequeira
Email: [email protected]

Where Does it End?


Please, God, Not Two

It’s sad enough when we lose a husband, wife, family member, or a dear friend. A child. How do you explain the pain to someone? We never know that agony someone else is feeling until you have that tragedy hit you.

We think a safe bubble is surrounding us and something that horrible will not hit us. That’s what I used to think, until the demon of alcoholism grabbed onto my husband, Richard, at 45 years of age, and that wasn’t enough, so it returned to take our daughter, Lori, at 39 years old. Yes, Lori went out drinking with her friends but she wasn’t an alcoholic, I thought.

We become huge enablers without even realizing it. We also go blind to the problems when they are in front of us. All the signs are there, our child becoming quiet, grades going down, no desire to go out with their usual friends, problems in school, scared to go out in public, no idea where they go or with whom, or look to see the other signs. 

Our world is way too fast with both parents working, kids going in different directions, no family gathering at mealtime, too much television, violent video games, and the cellphones that are glued to their fingers. 

Society has made the act of our young children turning to alcohol and drugs as a normal thing to except in this new lifestyle we have grown into in life. Nowhere do we see the death toll going down. Sex is something that used to be special to wait for until marriage, and our new world brings children into it without marriage, and at times, with different fathers. Women have stopped demanding respect.  Men assume they can have their desires with women.

Abuse between the boys and girls on drugs is high. A few dates, and our children move in to an apartment with each other without even knowing who the other one is or their background. Drugs come into play to keep the brain dead not to face the problems. 

My God, where are we going with this deathtrap? How do we stop it? We have to educate our children before they enter grammar school. Yes, bestow fear, because that is what it is going to take to make our children stop and think before jumping into experimenting with a substance that will eventually kill them. Stop thinking they are too young. They know more than the parents.

Come into my world with Lori in Please, God, Not Two after Richard’s death. Read how our children start out with drinking to keep up with friends, to block their minds on not fitting into a crowd, losing confidence in themselves, losing a parent causing them to get into depression holding that pain inside instead of talking about it, or having abortions. All these events lay heavy on our kids. Many are too young to handle problems that should be for adults. 

Communication between us and our children has slowly disappeared. Parents get divorced, some for good reasons, and our children are torn apart with handling their loss. Parents are so mixed up themselves that they get absorbed with their problems and go blind to their kids going down the path of substance abuse. No security with two parents causes confusion and fear in our child's life.

Our list can go on forever with everything in life as family goes. Our once happy children turn to alcohol, drugs, crimes, sex, pregnancy out of wedlock, they follow a family member who drinks down from one generation to another.

If something isn’t discovered to control this situation, or a solution is found, there will be few kids turning into grownups that will have an education to become important to our country and communities. We will not have leaders. Our prisons, hospitals, and rehabs for the mentally ill, will be full. 

Alberta Sequeira
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